“There was a sudden change in her reactions and I noticed that the things were bound for some unpredictable changes. There were no or few calls, and even when we talked she did not seem to be too interested in our talks till the day when she openly and clearly told me to move apart as the relation was becoming a load for her. After this, there were no reasons for me to stay back, just to persuade her that all things will get better because once when a thread is broken, you can only fix it up by tying a knot and a thread with knot can never remain smooth. So, I tried to move ahead with my life.” This was a personal encounter with life’s most cruel face and phase.

After every setback in your life, you feel it, it just waits for you to face the impede and follows the path leading to you, it is called; DEPRESSION and after depression appears the most haunting thing; LONELINESS. According to me, no human on the face of earth is “lonely” by preference but the situations force him to be so and anything which is forced up on is never pleasant and there is a tendency to escape from what you don’t feel good about.

This attitude leads to a fake world which one creates around, the world where he/she is happy and everything works according to his/her wishes and demands. The unreal world where the past has no options because they were the happenings and they have no existence in the virtual reality, which we create for ourselves.

Well said and known, a drop of water is enough to quench the thirst of a person who has walked miles in the burning deserts. He, who has lost love, needs it in the same way. The demand is so blinding that the major sense that decides a rational action while taking up a relation is lost and anyone who shows a little bit of care and concern becomes the most beautiful person ever and there is a feeling of “falling in love” again. Probably, that is why, it is called; “fall in love” and not “rise in love” because we opt for something which we are not sure about.

The first few times that you spend with this “escaping attitude” love is good but as time passes the realization of not feeling the same way as you have felt before starts lingering. And this is when we become conscious that it was a hasty decision, we took for ourselves but this realization takes a long time. Since we had experienced the hurt ourselves, our conscience doesn’t permit to inflict the same on someone else. Hence we keep on dragging the relation till the end.

We end up hurting ourselves and the person who is in this “HANGOVER RELATION” with us.

I feel, after losing the love of our life, we should take some time and not be afraid of the ruthless ways life takes during that period. Loneliness is hurting but it is transient and is bound to disappear some day or the other. One cannot control its existence as well as departure. So during this phase be quiet, if it is needed be sad and if you want, even cry but don’t run away from it. The day you accept it, it will leave you and that is the time when you can start looking for something new in your life. That something, which will make you feel happy and prosperous.