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Based on my experience in life about love due to my interactions with my friends, I am making an attempt to understand what exactly it takes to live a happy life. Of course, there is a huge volume of material available on the topics of life, happiness & success but then, we do not remember anything that we read when it comes to practical life. We know that we should not lie but we do, we know that we should not bribe but we do, we know that we should wake up early but we sleep, we know that we should make sincere efforts but we don't, we know a lot of things but we never put them in to practice in real life

Very recently, my friend broke up with his long time girlfriend. They had been together for more than 5 years and I would look up to them as role models for anyone who wants to rise in love. But then, like someone said, you always fall in love. When I look back to the reason why this happened, I feel it was so silly, cheap, meaningless or insensible but then, I should also agree that there are many things in the world which we ignore and many others value. When I asked the girl, she told me that he went out to purchase something with another girl and it hurt her. I was totally taken aback. It could be a case of possessiveness but then it can not be a case to break the relationship that is standing from more than 5 years. I mean, come on. My brains were blown off. But then, the girl explained to me that the guy has been doing such things in the past also. Despite her warnings, he has not stopped such activities. As far as I know the guy, I had complete faith in him but listening to these words, even my faith was shattered. I understood that there is a terrible misconception at one of the ends. To ensure that the girl puts out everything without anything hidden in her mind, I played a trick of supporting whatever the guy did. The girl was in no mood to talk to me, perhaps, she did not like a third party interference. As far as I remember, this is what we discussed

Me: So, whats the problem if he goes to a shop or for a movie with another girl?

She: I don't like it. Will you take it if your wife goes for a movie with another guy?

Me (shocked to some extent): Hmmm... May be no, but, I would not mind if she went to shop with some other guy

She: That's you. But I am not you. I don't like it

Me: But, come on. In which century are you living? Do you still believe in gender bias? Moreover, he has not done anything wrong. He has just accompanied the girl to a shop

She: You can explain me whatever you want but I do not like it

Me: Then why did you have this relationship with him for 5 years. You should have broken it a long back

She: I truly love him but he is interested in other girls. In fact, this matter has come up many times and we have had many fights because of this

Me: Oh, I see. How many times?

She: 1 week back (current issue). He also went out with a girl in 2008 and that too twice for a movie. Then in 2009, I think he went to a girl's house

Me: So, 3 times in 5 years. I mean, do you think he should not contact any girl at all. What are you trying to say?

She: No, I have no problem if he speaks to other girls but I don't like if he goes out with any girl alone

Me: But he told me that you have problem if he speaks to other girls. You have created a lot of scenes whenever he has spoken to any girl. He says that you have always fought even if he were to say hi to some girl. You even asked him to delete all the phone numbers of girls from his mobile

She: Yes, what's wrong in that? Why should he have any girl's number saved in his mobile? In spite of all this, he speaks to girls. He has spoken 2 times to one girl this year. Last year, he has spoken to at least 3 girls

Me (going mad, psyche, fool): Do you mean to say that he should not speak to girls at all?

She: No, I already said that I have no problem if he speaks to any girl

Me: You just gave me a statistical count of the number of times he spoke to a girl in a particular year?

She: Yes. That was FYI so that you don't tell me that he does not speak to girls

Me: OMG, I speak to at least 2-3 girls in a day. I mean, nobody even counts such things but I am trying to count. What is all this you are speaking? Don't you feel this is non sense? After all, what at least are you trying to prove?

She: You don't know the pain as you don't have a girlfriend. When you have one and it happens with you, you will know then

Me (thanking God for not having a girlfriend): Hmmm, so what do you intend to do now?

She: Break this relationship

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