It is said that girls become women after marriage in term of mentality. Girls must change herself after marriage. She becomes more responsible, more sensitive and of course, mature after entering in a new family, among new people at new place. The expectation other (new) family members keep upon her as a 'ghar ki bahu', makes her achieve the same. Sometimes (may be all the times), she forgets about all personal choices and tries to keep happy, takes care of her family members.

This water-like nature (wherever you keep water in, it take the shape of the dish ) did not emerge from elsewhere but her own mind. A marriage is not the ritual which bring the maturity, sense of responsibility, mind to adjust & compromise etc. It is the basic lesson which we girls use to listen from childhood. In some families, we also may see adjust being done by our mothers.

In my childhood, my grandma (nani, I call her Didan) used to say, whenever she meets me, I will hijack your husband & go for a date with him & will eat tons of ice-creams, chocolates. Ha ha.. Funny! But today I realize that there is a inner meaning of this. Didan actually taught me that one may never share her husband! (Didan, now, will never admit this. She still wants to go around with my would-be! :-P). My dadi used to say in my childhood that the male & child members in the family will eat their meal first then the females. I have seen my mom waiting in late night (still now, sometimes) for my baba without having her dinner. Though it is fun to have dinner together but is there any logic to stay awake for dad without having dinner when she need to wake up early in morning or she should take dinner then wait simply because she feels hungry? I love my dad too, but this has no logic. NO. Serving other members in family is being taught her since her childhood and now, it has become inseparable part of her life. I am sure, there are many more moms like mine. On the contrary, dad might also feel lonely while eating alone, that is why mom waits for him.

Now, after fixing of my wedding, all (whomever I come across!) are giving me advices (of course, good ones!). Like I need to understand what they (my would-be family members) want, how they want me to be, I need to adjust myself to their comfort level, I must mould myself as their family member, must prefer their choice first then mine. Should not speak loud (as I shout in my place sometimes on mom) but softly and, should ask before coming down to my paternal home ( Oh! Now, I cannot come to my place very frequently), shall share my problems with my would-be mom-in-law ( that too not like I use to do with my mom...) & follow her, must wear what she ask me to while staying at home on the initial days, should learn to prepare some special dishes as they might ask me to do my special preparation occasionally. And blah blah blah....

I think, I am still not prepare for wedding. What is being married? Leaving my own-self? Is it anything only adjusting in the new family or trying always keep them happy? Where is the time for me? When would I read my favourite book or write down diary? I am already very much busy / engaged in my life (without wedding). What will I do after getting married? From where would I manage to get time for myself? It is necessary to spend some time with yourself: it helps you to understand your mind, yourself. (Like I am alone in home today and managed to write 2 blogs back to back on MS! This one was in drafts though..)

I know, wedding is not this much mishap (..:-P..)! But I am scared now, I don't know what gonna happen if I cant manage to read/ write in MS? Or read books or write diary? May God save my little soul!