The Basics

If you are like most of the couples today, chances are your previous

year has been filled with both good and bad things, happiness and

sorrow, triumphs and conflicts. With the start of another brand new

year, why not take some time to finally say goodbye and let go of all

those not so good things that happened in your relationships the

previous year? For just a few minutes, sit down with your partner

and discuss of the best ways that will help in making your current

relationship way better than before.

Forgiveness is the Key

So that the two of you will be able to move forward for the brand

new year with a positive mind frame, it is a must that forgive and

forget what happened in the past. If you have long been nursing

some hurt within you and you find it hard to forgive your partner

before, this is the perfect time to let things go and embrace the

concept of forgiving. Refusing to forgive can be similar to a poison

slowly but surely seeping through your whole being, filling with such

bitterness and eventually setting us a permanent wedge between

the two of you. When you forgive, it does not necessarily mean that

you will condone the things done by your partner. More importantly,

forgiveness means that you have finally come to peace with it in

order for you to finally move forward.

Problem Evaluation is a Must

Take time that you evaluate the biggest problems in your

relationship. For some, this might be lack of communication. For

others, this can be finances and a myriad of other issues. Discuss

the problem and think of ways on how you can improve things.

Listen to the ideas of one another in order for the two of you to have

your equal share on the decision.

Change Good for the Better

Talk about the ways which can help in improving the already good

things in your relationship. All couples have their own strengths in

their relationship. Discuss these things and turn these into a

validation that signifies that the two of you are doing things right.

Talk things out to make good things even better and make a vow

that you will never take for granted the good aspects of your

relationship.

Talk About Romance and Intimacy

When we speak of romance, this should encompass your sex life.

There is no denying that this is an integral part of your relationship

so make sure that you do not set this aside. Laugh together and be

playful about this. Come up with ways on how you can make this

part of your relationship better and happier.

Self-Care is the Key for a Better Relationship

Taking care of yourself when in a relationship is as important as

tending to the relationship itself. It is a must that you take care of

yourself prior to fixing your relationship. Here, you can apply the old

adage stating that you can never give away things that you do not

have. Until you feel happy and peaceful, you will never have a

happy and peaceful relationship.

If you choose to skip such steps and jump right away to your trouble

relationship’s murky waters, chances are you will be going straight

down under. This is the reason why you need to do everything in

your power so that you can stabilize yourself prior to getting this

over your head.

Prior to confronting the core issues of your relationship, first, you

need to follow the following steps in order to increase the chance of

being successful.

Commit to Staying Okay Whatever Happens Along the Way

Promise to yourself that you will still take care of yourself and

remain okay whatever will happen in your relationship. Once your

happiness completely depends with your partner being there by

your side all the time, you will end up feeling powerless and fearful.

This will then mean that there is more likely that you will be

engaging in ineffective actions like pleading and begging. When this

happens more often, the less will your partner want to stick to the

relationship. Why is that?

A good reason for this is that your partner will see you as someone

emotionally dependent and needy. The things that another person

will do for your sake will still be not enough for you because you will

always expect more from that person. It is something that will not

escape your partner and will make him/her fearful of being

consumed and eaten up by your unending demands for care and

attention.

One more reason is that it can be a real burden for one person to

feel completely responsible for another’s happiness. Majority of

people feel the need of running away if this is the case. The partner

who tries to be everything to another will then feel anger and

resentment when place in this kind of demanding position, thus

snuffing out any sense of fun and playfulness that are vital to have

an enduring relationship.

When you respect yourself and believe in your own capacity of

thriving whether you are in a relationship or single, you will surely

come from a place full of strength and empowerment. These two

attributes can attract other people and provoke respect, which will

then make you a more desirable and lovable partner.

Commit to Staying Happy With Your Life Despite Feeling

Miserable

There is no need for you to wait to plan some fun activities you can

do on your own until you get your relationship perfect. If you want,

you can join classes where you can learn interesting past times

such as gourmet cooking, playing the guitar or such. List down

places in your area or others nearby that you plan to visit. Learn

brand new skills, brand out, and broaden your own personal world.

When you have fun and stay active, you will feel much happier and

even contented with yourself. On top of that, this will make you

more attractive to the eyes of your partner. When you lead your own

life with gusto, have a sense of adventure and take good care of

yourself, no matter what state your relationship might be in, you will

increase the likelihood of your partner wanting to spend more time

with you.

Give Your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt

Have you ever done some stupid, dumb or hurtful things which

greatly affected your partner? Chances are almost all persons in

this world have unintentionally or intentionally hurt someone they

love. In fact, research showed that a lot of people will do anything

hurtful to their partner in all long term relationships.

All relationships are bound to experience their own share of

conflicts. Whether it is confusion, misunderstandings or

disagreements, if you known and have been someone pretty long

enough, eventually, something will take place that will result to

tension. People will make you feel frustrated, angry, disappointed,

hurt, or upset. Your partner is human, just like you, so there is

actually no way to get around this. Once such situations happen,

will you respond with anger or will you give your partner the benefit

of the doubt?

When you give another person the benefit of the doubt, it only

means that when you still lack all the needed information, even in

times of conflict, you will still be willing to assume the best, set

aside the negative judgment and respond in a favorable way. Love

itself can give the benefit of the doubt. It will not make the mind

filled with the negative assumptions. It will seek to work its way

around the difficult situations even after being proven wrong or

getting disappointed.

As stated on the Bible, love is something that “bears all things,

believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” Love is not

naïve and instead, it gives the benefit of the doubt. Love chooses to

see the best in other people. You do not just give this kind of benefit

simply because you want to. More importantly, you give your

partner the benefit of the doubt because you choose to and

because you love. This act is selfless. So, how will you successfully

give your partner the benefit of the doubt?

Love

Knowing how to love someone is the key here. You simply cannot

expect one person to completely accept you for who you are and

then expect perfection from them. This love is not unconditional.

Conditional loving is based in selfishness, something that will not let

you give a person the benefit of the doubt.

Patience

Patience is needed when looking for the truth and trying to resolve

conflict. Jumping to conclusions is not part of giving benefit of the

doubt.

Understanding

It is important to try putting yourself in the shoes of the other

person. For all you know, they are probably afraid of being

themselves to due rejection, abandonment or any other issues. Just

assume that your partner has tried to be truthful and grow with you

before working with them towards it.

Forgiveness

The last but definitely not the least thing that you need is to learn to

forgive and forget. Never let yourself dwell in bitterness. When you

finally let your initial anger go, let it stay in the past and do not let it

cloud your mind over again.

Perks of Your Relationship Resolution

As New Year start, millions of people from different parts of the

world make their own resolutions, from saving money, spending

less, losing weight and the likes. Unfortunately, there is a single

resolution that is not heard that much – “Let’s work on our

relationship.”

However, even though this might not really be spoken, most

couples that are going through some rough waters in their

relationship always wish for the best when another year comes their

way. There are plenty of benefits that you will surely enjoy for the

rest of the year when you create and follow through your

relationship resolution for the next 12 months and many other years

to come.

A Healthier Relationship is Bound to Come Your Way

Relationship resolutions pave the way for maintaining a healthy

relationship. A healthy relationship is when two individuals show

mutual respect for each other and remain true to themselves while

still respecting the entirety of their partner down to their very core.

True, this will require respect, patience and compromise but this will

still be worth all the effort because being human beings, everyone is

meant to connect on a deeper level with another person that they

love and know that they are secure in their most crucial relationship.

You Can Reestablish the Feelings and Connections That Got Lost

Along the Way

It is very common for long time relationship to lose some feelings

and connections as years pass by and they seem to grow too

accustomed to the presence of one another. Through a relationship

resolution, you can get the perfect chance to find everything lost

and put them back again or better yet, take things to a higher level

and change the whole face of your relationship. It helps you

rekindle the fire and bring back the old flames that time seemed to

have extinguished without you knowing it.

You and Your Partner Become Better Persons Not Just for Your

Relationship But Also For Yourselves

Relationship resolution is made not only for the sake of salvaging

the relationship itself but more importantly, its purpose is to allow

the two people involved in that relationship to find their self worth to

make them better for their partner and for the rest of the people

around them. If you feel like you have lost yourself during the

course of the relationship, this resolution will help you find your way

and bounce back, this time better than ever.