Madhu,had been an acquaintance at Work,who complains abt each & evrything in life.Last Monday as I was free,He dropped into my cabin & the conversation was as follows:

Madhu:"Javeed,I hate this job & My Boss is an awful person.I never get along with him.I never get any thanks from what donkey's work I do."

I wanted 2 Enjoy My Day off in office 2 catch gossip.

Me:"So,Why Don't U just leave & search 4 a better one." In recession times.LoL

Madhu:"Oh No,Now at this Moment.I can't.I mean what else I can do at this age.I've been here 4 so long.Anyways V always need money 2 survive." Who does not need Money?

Me:"But have U ever tried?U never know where an opportunity lies,there could be a Job that would be specifically suit U 2 the best of Ur ability"

Madhu:"Er.R U joking?Who would employee me at this age?No,what employers r looking 4 now days r younger people,whom they can train,who can be dynamic.Anyways,it's been years since I've attended & interview.I'd go nuts answering the qs of these young HR chaps"

Me:"When U say Ur boss is so awful,did U tried talking 2 him?Find out what could be the problem."

Madhu:"Do U Know My Boss?Nah.U don't know him.I've tried talking but he does not listen 2 me.No,I've just got 2 accept this is my fate & grin & bear him till he leaves the company"

I had 2 put this behind so took him 4 Coffee & bid him good bye with best wishes.

We may not always realise that everything V do, affects not only our lives,But touches others 2.

Later on the weekend,I recall another conversation,at home with my better half & it was as follows:

Me:"R U, Okie?"

Her:"Fine" with out batting any eyes.

Me:"R U sure?"

Her:"I am Fine & I am Sure",She Started tidying the room in an overtly aggressive manner,avoiding any eye contact with me.Now I am sure something is awfully wrong.I am Just back from walk.

Me:"Look if there is a problem or there’s something that needs 2 be done,just tell me.But don't beat around the bush(oops)"

Her:"I shouldn’t have 2 tell U,each & everything.U can see urself the house is a mess, the dinning table needs cleaning of the last night's party,the dishes need 2 be done as the maid is not coming 2day,the kids need 2 be taken out 4 breakfast & all U can do is come here flop on the sofa & read the bloody newspaper."

Me:"Okie,I am Sorry.Let me do some of them 4 U,U can take a rest & do later when U R calm(oops)"

Her:"4get It.I'll do it myself like I always do"

There flew my Weekend's peace!

4 a Little bit of thoughtfulness,that shows someone U care,Creates a ray of sunshine,4 both of U 2 Share.

Later on, Sunday Evening V (Me & My Bitter Half who is now Better) went over 2 my SIL's place to pick them up.And imagine yet another conversation as follows:

Me:"R U,Okie?Did V drop in at a wrong time?"

Her:"I am little hassled.I've had 2 take my car 4 service,Ur brother is gone out of station & I promised the Kids that I’d take them 2 KFC.& I am also looking after that Moin's brat as they have gone 2 visit an ailing relative at hospital.V R supposed 2 be at our mother's place in 1 hour 4 Dinner.Honestly,I haven't had my feet touch the ground this whole day.Phew What a Sunday it is!"

Me:"Well,May be I can be of some help(oops)?"

Her:"No.Its Okie.Thanks anyways 4 the Offer.No,I’ll just have 2 do everything myself.I never get any help from Ur brother U know" I exchanged glances with my wife.

Me:"Well,U could have asked him 2 take the car 4 service.He would have helped U a little"

Her:“Well,I don't like asking.He must have got enough on his plate without having 2 hassling him"

R all these Situations sound familiar?Say the Truth.

Yes,everytime U offer,Some1 a helping Hand.Everytime U show a friend,U care & understand.

Many a times we all believe we have no choices."That's just the way life is,there is nothing I can do",their fav. magic words.After all we R Human & driven by desires & avoid pain.We can call them BMWs.Not the cars,Bitching,Moaning & Whining.

Feeling Sorry 4 urself & Ur present condition is not only a waste of time & energy, but the worst habit U could possibly have.Those who R good at helping others,often struggle 2 help themselves.Many a times I have noticed relationships break down by one of the partner's inability 2 say "NO" 2 the requests that many a times come from people outside the relationship.

Evytime U have,A kind & gentle word 2 give.U help some1 find beauty,Is this precious life we live.

We all have responsibility.Just remember those Responsibilities.R there people around U with these magic words?Heal them.The little unremembered acts of kinds & love R the best parts of a person's life.Utter the Magic Words "My Responsibility"