Our bhi dukh hain zamane main.
"inspite of asking tips on" dealing with broken relation ship’"the best excercise is not to break them every relation needs sacrifice, and in every single attachment there is an element of tolerance largely involved, so dont run away restarting your lives or a bit tunning them."
tip no. 1 thou shalt think.
think before you speak and react specially if u know that the potential for fire works exists bcz sometimes the words only fan the flames and take u further away from your goal of resolution.and if smthng like that happen say " idint mean it" without wasting a microsecond .
tip no.2 thou shalt clean your spleen.
write a brutually honest letter to your husband wife or friend telling them about every bad feeling you had and all the memories you had about anything harsh happened and then drop that letter into your "dead latter box "and move with a smile on your face.
tip no.3 thou shalt not argue with feelings thou shalt learn to listen and listen to learn.
sometimes your husband wants to go daitribe about you how you neglect him, sometimes your wife wants to tell you how disappointed and upset she is with you, sometimes your partner wants to express his / her resentment about the way you have treated them."you cannot argue with feelings just listen when your partner express strong feelings rather than argue and try to insist that your partner shouldn’t feeling what they are feeling understand that they ARE feeling that way and simply say " IM SORRY YOU FELT THAT WAY "try to put your self in thier shoes and give them the empathy that you would want yourself saying" I WILL OFCOURSE PUNISH MY SELF FOR BEING SUCH INCONSIDERATE PERSON".
tip no.4 thou shalt understand that privacy is golden.
while a good relatioship involves the honesty, saying every single thing that comes into your mind and sharing every feeling is not conductive to true intimacy intruding your partners every thought and feeling is not going to create greater togetherness create boundries and set limits you know how much contact you make and how much will ignite your nuclear bomb.
here a women is questioned who gets possessive and try to overcare the relation but let me say "being possessive is the strenght of being a woman and it is not bad at all " but in limits.
tip no.5thou shalt not over react.
when partners feel neglected the often create a scenario that invites your over reaction it cause all out wars, dont do it, if you want to win your relationship stay off the battlefield, assess a dispute with your partner, is it really worth fighting over?sometimes couples will get lost in a war of words, "some try to please and other over react, some say smthng but other dont perceve positively, in that situation the best solution is to say " I m not a sort of a person who hurt someones feeling and least of all .yours.what happened is a clear case of misperception and nothing else"
and then repeat your self they are not just the words try to feel them.
tip no. 6 thou shalt always be positive appreciated and interested.
sometime people forget to focus the positvity of relation and the positivity of having a relation, "it is a clear antagonism to those who does not belive in having a relationship with others any where". how lovely it is being in relation, you can experience only when, you put your self in a relation.either of friendship or some other sort so keep up relation.and tell your wife how beautiful she is, tell your husband how nice he looks, express to your mate those things you appreciate about them reflect your ways on which you are greatful to them .
*main ne samjha tha ki too hai to darakhshan hai hayat .
tera gham hai tou ghame dhara ka jhagda kia hai .
teray honay say hai alam main baharon ko sabat.
teri aankhon kay siwa dunya main rakha kia hai.
too jo mil jaye to takdeer nigoon ho jaye.
yoon na tha main ne fakat chaha tha yoon ho jaye.*
tip no. 7 thou shalt respect thy mate .
"demand when you need an apology from your friend, request him / her to say sorry, it will help you keeping your relationship smooth but with respect "treat your mate with respect and dignigty dont curse dont hit below the belt, do any thing to aviod vio, lence dont let familiarity breed contempt, when there is a lack of harmony use a polite and cordial stance in order to end conflict, learn your mates daily rythm. if your wife is not a morning person dont bring up sensitive issues before she’s had her morning coffee if your husband get tired and cranky when returning from work leave him alone to regroup for an hour or so, and than tell him your mother is coming to visit you for a month .respect is a sum total of all accumulated small and large consideration that you afford your mate take them one at time.
tip no. 8thou shalt remeber whta u see is wt u get .
do not ever try to change your spouse more than they themselve would like to change partners are doomed to failure when they try to change each other accept your mate for who he or she is, and rejoice in the fact that they accept u of who u are.and demand them to accept u as u are saying:
" I know im a little emotional fool but u have to accept me"
thou shalt learn that shared expereinces, interst and compaionship build relationship.
when people have difficulty getting close with ecah other they often try to talk thier way through it sometime all the taking in the world cannot replace a good time with your partner. make sure to spend time together .when thier are childer in ur life make sure to bring them up together like a couple of hawk .get way for weekend together plan romantic dinners focus on intimicy, sensuality and physicality. take an interest in your partner’s interest if your wife like tv serials watch sometimes with her if u are a sports widow make an effort to watch cricket with ur spouse 35 mintues serial wont kill you a cricket match highlights wont break your head .discover eacdh other as a frnds you stated of as.
dont be as.
*or bhi dukh hain zazamanien main mohabbat kay siwa.
rahatien or bhi hain vasl ki rahat kay siwa.*