A strange, out of the earth topic some will feel.. But, when I went thru the health and beauty section I realized that such an important topic is not written about. Although it is not something which everyone is interested in or would want to educate about, but I took a general view and thought it was worth it.
A personal topic as it is, the beginning of all life of course, is one of the most beautiful phases for any women and should also be, since you are creating LIFE! With today’s hectic schedules, and promising careers and secure future this phase of family is also more than most planned. No harm in doing so. All those who are still not binded by the wedlock or are planning to enter this bond do discuss this aspect of growing together before the marriage vows. Many a marriages fail due to clashes on this issue, and it is not funny, trust me! As for the planning, there is no general formula to it, depending upon your personal priorities and goals it is different for all. But, the basics remain the same, i.e. To be able to provide a decent home and space to the child. Being able to give time and proper education (it is a lifelong commitment) Being emotionally and financially prepared to cheerfully take on the new role. It needs sound decision making, so take your time, but don’t feel confused. Once you have decided that u want a family for yourself, it makes life much simpler and together one can plan better. It sets well in your personal goals also. A rough five year plan won’t harm here. N when the news is out, that “YES” you are EXPECTING! Feel all the joy it brings to you and those around you. But be careful to share it with only close loved ones. Not that being an Indian, m sounding superstitious but it is better to do so, because as u may later find it saves lots of tension. Wait for the right time to share it with all, ideally it is after 3 months when u have crossed the most delicate trimester of the three..
For all those who are new to this topic pregnancy is divided into three trimesters, i.e. quarters, 1st one being the most important since all the vital body part are created in this trimester. Later it is just increasing in size and getting stronger. A quick list of do’s and don’ts Do’s · Have two glasses of milk each day. · If a vegetarian have curd as daily protein supplement. · If not, you can continue to have eggs, fish these being better than mutton and chicken. However, chicken stalk soup is very healthy diet. · Eat as much raw vegetables and fruits as possible. Have salad everyday. Include sprouts too. · Have min. 12 glasses of water because u need more water intake than normal now. · Sleep min. 8 hrs. a day. N most of all, · Remain cheerful, it isn’t easy, u may hv. real mood swings but accept them as normal Now the don’t · Avoid traveling by auto rickshaw. The jerks can prove fatal. So be very careful. Take a bus, train or cab instead. Especially first 3-4 months. · Don’t take coffee. If u are a coffee addict, be happy with just one cup a day. · Do not panic for whatever reason. Do not hurry, take it easy. · Don’t smoke and take alcohol. · Don’t try to move heavy weights. · Don’t bleach your face if you are a regular bleach user, it is best avoided. · Don’t eat for two people; it is a very wrong notion. Have your normal diet, but njoy it. As for the doctor visits, once you have decided upon the doctor, make a visit every month. Take your month BP checks, weighing. Get the blood tests done. You can go for a sonography after the 1st trimester. It is a wonderful experience to see the unborn on the screen, something which cannot be explained in words. Especially for fathers-to-be, b’cas they are the ones who can only try n understand listening to their wife’s experience. Seeing the baby for themselves makes them feel very connected and happy. These are just some of the basics thoughts which I felt are the beginning of it all.. N thus, starts the process of Expecting Gracefully… Isn’t creating LIFE EXCITING?? Smiles, Deepa:-)