I know about the spying agencies in big cities like mumbai who spy for you on a target. People uses them to gain information about their business rivals, their spouse’s extra-marital affairs or even for match making.
But turning out that concept into reality tv is altogether a different thing, and highly controversial, debatable ethically.
If you think one-night-stands are fine, occasional flings are cool; please stop reading. If you really want to be part of serious relationship, to learn about do’s and don’ts while into relationship, you can take a look at the show.
Scenario 1: you have a doubt on your partner, you are not sure whether he/she is a marriage material.
Scenario 2: you think that your best friend is being cheated by his/her partner and you have great concern for their relationship.
Terminology :
lead- person who contacts bindaas ea team to confirm either of the above scenarios.
Suspect - person who is under the scanner. If he proves guilty becomes the cheater.
Undercover agent (ua): a cast member planted by bindaas ea team to lure the suspect.
Modus operandi:
lead contacts the channel. Ea team gathers the information about the relationship, the reason for mistrusting the partner, characteristics of the partner etc. Ea team starts following suspect immediately with cameras hidden in belt, purse, ipod, specks etc.
Ua meets suspects as a stranger, becomes friends with him in a day or two. If suspect is a cheater, he/she will be more than happy to go ahead, lies to ua about his/her present relationship status. Suspect may try to get intimate with ua, ua allows upto certain limit to capture the real face of the suspect. This continues for 5 days. Ea team builds a temporary war room in a building where ua and suspects meet, ea team bugs some flat/terrace in the same building with mics and cameras to have live feed to catch the suspect red-handed.
On day 5, once channel has enough raw uncut footage, they call the lead to the war room. Channel shows the lead what suspect had been upto during those 5 days. During this ua has called the suspect to nearby flat/terrace. After seeing the brutal truth, most of the leads become so impatient that they want to catch their partner red-handed and channel oblige.
Pluses:
the concept. I don’t know if there is any other show like this in the world.
People can connect to the show. This can happen to anybody. Since this is a reality show (at least it claims to be), shock value is higher.
The host angad bedi is good enough to maintain the dignity while entire drama unfolds.
Minuses:
i am wondering if so called moral police is sleeping or what. This show deserves to be more controversial then sach ka samna.
This can be highly disturbing to sensitive public. Pg is must while watching this show.
Many people doubt authenticity of the show. However, it is difficult to figure out if entire episode is fabricated or all the emotions are real.
My view
this show has mainly people (lead/suspect) in their 20s or early 30s, so far. You have yet to learn a lot about life like about relationships, about respecting your partner’s trust , about responsibilities/boundries that come with the relationship.
Mostly people learn about all this hard way, after making mistakes. If you have learnt all this without making a single mistake, without hurting someone, my hats off to you (seriously). I am not justifying infidelity here, but it happens and its rate is increasing even in our country. Such shows show reality of our society (which is scary) : we can face it or happily deny it like nothing happened.
What i like about the show is the message it’s spreading. People who gets involved in infidelity don’t think much about consequences, they just go with the flow. They want to score. But after getting all that, if they realize about what they loose to get all these guilty/momentary pleasures, they will be deeply regretted . ( conditions apply).
Imagine a girl who is with the guy for more than 2 years and guy is three-timing her. To impress us (whom he met just 2 days before) he said that he dumped her 1 year back because of her over possessiveness or his second girlfriend(not ua, she is the third one) is good at giving job. Now imagine yourself at that girl’s place watching all this in front of her eyes. Imagine yourself as that cheater who later realizes his mistake, who doesn’t deserve a second chance to correct whatever damage he has done. You will be scared.
I don’t know what would be the state of mind of the victim after confronting the partner. This show reveals the identity of victim, everyone around is not caring/sensitive enough to understand. I don’t know how does victim’s/ cheater’s parents/relatives feel after the telecast of entire episode on national channel. I strongly feel that some counselling is required, i hope channel has kept this point in mind.
I hope nobody is getting the message that others are doing this, so it’s ok to do it.
Nobody thinks about the end of relationship in the start. But sometimes we may require to think again about the future of relationship. But jumping from one relationship to another is bad. Even if terminating current relationship is good, one should not enter into new one with baggage of previous relationship. Life is a cruel teacher and doesn’t always give the second chance.