Handling Stress

"I am going to die…I cann’t handle this anymore…"

"I do hope I dont have a long life - life can be very difficult sometimes…"

"Because of me…my parents are sad…I am not worth the life…"

"He/she betrayed me…I cannot live in this world anymore…"

We have heard many of these words in our life. Often, it might have slipped from our mouth. Can you remember a day you said so?   What happened afterwards? If your dearest friend sends a message to you with those words, what you will give as an answer? Let me think, what I will tell him or her...

"Comon buddy...don’t say it anymore...ok? Say ok...I know you personally.     You are such a sweetheart. You are so dear to me. Remember the days we talk each other overnight on various topics and laughed…now, you say this? I didn’t expect it from you buddy.

I am however happy that you send this message to me…I cannot imagine you keeping all your frustrations within you to blow out a day out of proportion. Thanks for that. Always remember, in case of any need there is a friend on which you can depend on. When I was in difficult situations, your shoulder was the resting place for my head.

I know you are a gem with lot of talents. For that matter we all are…each human being is one. Didn’t you remember you gave me the quote "We all are seeds of God and like a seed we need to grow as a tree and give fruits…"   Don’t you remember discussing Vivekananda over the weekend? "You are supposed to be a giant tree.   The tree which will give shadow to many…" now you cry for yourself? Self pity?   Didn’t we were much motivated after reading? "If God is with us who can stand against us?" still you complain you don’t have any support Didn’t Rabindranath Tagore’s quote "We should find god in us and us in God?"   So, what are you crying out?   When we were small, we used to cry. For milk, food, protection and attention. Now? We still cry for attention, protection and helplessness? Comon! We all are grown up…we should handle our emotions maturely. I know you are little emotional. We all are. It is emotions make us sensible, but we should not become too sensitive. Emotions should not rule us.   We are no more children to complain each other for missed chocolates. We have to play with the set of cards received to us. How well we play will determine our success and happiness.   Play it good and accept whatever results happily. If they criticize you, they can go to hell, not you. Let us bury them and not prepare a coward’s rut for ourself.

Your words are so negative my dear.   I am sure in another day you will not accept it that it came from you.   These negative messages can harm your body and mind. Keep positive frame of mind most of the time, if not all the time.   Each depressed take two days from your life my buddy. So, don’t give away the priceless days so easily.   Remember, positive or negative, the life should move on. There are always ways if we are free to think out of the box.

I know you need some practical tips as well.   Here I have few suggestions which I hope can help you some way…

1. Sleep well. Don’t you remember my review on sleep the other day?   Sleep will give you a clear mind and lot of energy in the morning. Switch off your TV on time, don’t get too much electrical, I know you are…and for god sake, sleep at least 6 hours a day.

2. I know you are a workaholic. Take a day off at least once in a month. Go to a place where you can sit alone and relax….go to a beach, a riverside, a desert or a hill side….Just relax yourself…think the bunch of positives…only positives… Negatives will come to your mind…problems will start questions….but always cover it with positive thoughts…

3. Spend time with your family. Visit your relatives. Blood is thicker than water, you know. Care them you will get it back. Spend some extra time with kids. What? Your mate didn’t have time? Let us plan something to make him(her) understand as well.

4. Go out and meet some really poor people to understand how they live and know how blessed we are.

5. Are you still practicing the walking? Or did you stopped it like last time?

6. Fix a smile in your face buddy. Smile at your enemy. Smile at your problem. See to believe it melt itself half.

7. Are you going for the yoga/dance class?   Hay, did you remember the breathing technique we learned during our retreats?

8. Visit friends in person regularly. Whenever you have a serious problem just come to me my dear…if I am not for that or I didn’t have time to listen to you, don’t call me a friend. Ok?   You read my review on friendship in mouthshut as well, right? Like last time you advised me, you take others advise, but take your decision. Ok?

9. Watch a light entertainer movie…Don’t go for those serious kinda when you are tensed please.

10. If circumstances permit listen to music when work.

11. Take a long bath. Preferably, with hot water, then cold water and then on hot water…(means mix the temperatures getting to body, so that the body will rush blood to all over so that we will get extra energy; you know.)

12. Don’t keep problems for ever. sort it out in the first hand.

1. Go by the decision.   Don’t get lose hearted like you did last time to the old level.

14. Sit and analyse the entire situation put you into trouble time again. Your job? Relation? Emotions? Money? Let us analyse and see where we stand. If we need to quit, we need to quit. But, when we don’t need to quit, we should not. Period! When you deal with a problem the problem should be sorted out and not you…of course you may need some attitude correction (I know you are naughty too), but don’t allow mind lose.

I don’t know your exact situation as you didn’t explain. So, please feel free to detail me the main problem to me. We can find a solution together. Knowing you well, I will not tolerate this kind of messages any more, but I want that this to be sorted out with you for once and for all.

Thank you buddy once again…Sweet dreams… Hay, you know how I miss you? I am coming to you soon? When are you passing this way around? (:-i-:) Paul"