“Tell me something I don’t know!”
That’s the first thing that came to my mind as I saw the title in the bookstore. On reading the back cover of the book, I didn’t find anything that would make me want to buy the book, so I passed.
In February, on my birthday, a friend gave me this book. My first reaction, as you may have guessed by now, was -’’what a load of crap’’
The book sat in a rusty corner of my bookshelf, untouched and forgotten.
But, one fine day I read this book.
After reading the book, I was convinced that my initial opinion about the book held absolutely no truth.
What I had expected from this book, like many others, was a general overview of how men and women are different and the all too famous ’’101 ways to love your partner’’. But what I found was an in-depth analysis of relationships.
John Gray uses an analogy of Martians and Venusians who met, fell in love, and were happy together, till they came to the planet Earth. That’s when their problems started, and John Gray came into the picture.
He has a lot of advice to give on arguments, respecting each other’s privacy, and the daily trivial things that most of us don’t give much thought to. But small things are what matter most, and John Gray makes this evident with the numerous examples and incidents that he’s wrapped up into thirteen small chapters.
He explains how men and women are emotionally very different, and how in general they differ in their reactions to various situations that may come up during the course of their lives. He also points out that where as women need to talk to release their emotional stress, men need to retire into their own little world, away from everyone else. This is the cause for most relationship problems, and both men and women need to see the others’ need. Men should offer a shoulder and hear their partner’s woes without complaining or offering advice. On the other hand, women should respect the fact that at times men will need their space and privacy. They may not feel like talking, but that isn’t something personal.
John Gray spells out several techniques through which both men and women can help each other, and understand each other to perfection. In doing so, they eliminate not only misunderstandings, but mistrust and trivial matters which interfere with their love for each other. He paints a portrait of love, trust and understanding that is essential for any relationship to blossom, and stay in full bloom. The valuable tips and advice given in this book is unmatchable by anything else that I’ve ever read.
My initial judgment on the book was made without reading it. On reading it, however, I have found this book to be very helpful. I would definitely recommend it.
Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them.