Sorry friends, this review is on the topic Pornography the cure and not on the album...(noted after posting it...later)
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There are several forces in this world which influence individual’s decision. The greatest force is the force of survival. After fear of death and needs to keep the body fit (food, fear of dangers etc) it is the force of sex which rules one’s action the most.
God created man and woman. They have been kept apart to control the number of children they make as God don’t wanted to give away the entire land for human beings alone. He (or She) also put the honey of attraction so much so that they are attracted each other to continue the life in this world. Because of this force in each one of us we human beings (like any other living creatures) attracted by the opposite sex. Nature have hidden this force in a safe place with a sense so that it is released only when the physical body is fit to take the responsibilities the force calls for, i.e. to give birth to a baby. Nature also takes away this force when it knows that one’s body cannot serve the force any more. Truly wicked!!!
On an average, say from the age of 11 to 50 for woman and 12 to 60 for man, this force will be active. Our social customs and circumstances now forced the age of marriage from child marriage to late marriages. (Especially for educated youth the marriage comes late. Marriage comes only after education and establishing a career). Overall, if we look at the situation a man gets married at the age of 30 (Say 28 to 32) and woman at the age of 22 (18 to 25). There are extreme cases, but we take the average for our general consideration. (Dowry system, burden of family etc. can pull many marriages further)
The above facts throw light to a simple but hard fact. A boy after starting his hormone growth has to wait for 18 years to reach into a real physical relation. A girl has to wait for 11 years to enter into physical relation after the puberty. Say, if you look back at some 30 years back, there were little exposures available. The joint family system was in rule and children or youth were always in companies against a twin children culture of today. The only way they come across the problem of pornography was when they go to school or colleges or theatres. The marriages were done little early too. So, the exposure to sexual matters was less and the road to marriage was shorter.
In today’s atmosphere our youth are exposed to lot of porn. If earlier they had to go to theatres to watch an adult movie, now it is on their finger tips…either on TV or computer. The 21st century youth are all set to enter into a dangerous zone. Dangerous because the law is very strict and society is very serious when it comes to pornography.
(If it is over exposure one side of the story, lack of proper information is the other side. Even in these years I have come across professionals married and found later that they don’t know many primary things about sex. They simply failed to enjoy the greatest force. They are strange to simple questions of this natural instinct. The huge number of material knowledge didn’t help them when it comes to relate and tie their partner in the rope of joy and love. If most of them are the by products of system generated professionalism, loneliness leaves a symbolic mark as well.)
On the one hand the young fellow wanted to know what this great force is doing with his/her body and want to take the pleasures sooner out of curiosity, he/she is feared of social and cultural backlash as well. Lack of knowledge supplied by the education institutions didn’t help the purpose either.
Why one need to pull out of the habit?
(I am not talking about an occasional visitor, but a person who is addict.)
The foremost reason is that when one get addicted to pornography and cannot come back as their own, they must be spending a lot of creative time in vein. The second important factor is that sex is an emotional state. Staying in that emotional state will make people emotional too often, where I consider the cord to every emotion is coming from a single master cord. A lot of physical energy is too used where at the end the person go back his pleasure hut where the time lost take away his better opportunities of life. Unlike many other emotions sex is an emotion which gives enjoyment and it is difficult to pull out one person from an emotion which gives pleasure.
I have to say frankly, I have only very few options to give. It is really difficult to get out of it. If one wishes to enjoy the life and sex more maturely later it is important to come out of the habit.…these hints must not be perfect, but should help some one some how.
1. Don’t think that it is a great sin. When you consider it as a sin, you feel guilty. You tried several times, but failed. So why not to continue it? Just treat it as a habit one need to correct. That’s it.
2. Try to be with good friends.
3. Engage in some games which require physical exercise.
4. Find and engage in new and creative activities. (Be active members of sites like Mouthshut)
5. Read quality books on the subject of sex to increase your understanding of the force.
6. Accept the reality that the powerful force of sex is required to you and you need to carry this force with you for about 40 plus years. Like any other force…use it with care.
7. Avoid situations leading to the habit.
8. Find some alternative habits which give pride and joy to you.
9. Professional councelors and doctors should be made available for the reach of any youngster who is studying in a high school or a college.
10. The government too has to consider the issue more sympathetically. The education system should be more informative and helpful to guide our youth in their way of life forward.
These are few hints came to my mind as the keys pulls me forward. I am sure that the fellow MSians will be having more to share in this topic to help each other.
"If sex is such a natural phenomenon, how come there so many books on how to?" Bette Midler