Note: Only 4 adults who can think.
Reason2write: Years ago an ad by Congress showed Late Rajiv Ghandi say ‘My heart beats for India’ – I no have party/money to fund such ads, but I hav an heart that beats/bleeds for India, whose many children have fallen victim to these 2 social evils. We can never have a happy India with these 2 evils still around.
Correction: Why is the topic P vs P. It shud be P&P vs H(Humanity), as the 2 Ps are actually partners & the 2 faces of the same evil coin. The two are causative, each generating business & victims for the other.
Aam Aadmi Redefines P&P: Dictionary says pornography is “creative activity (writing or pictures or films etc.) of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire” & Prostitution is “act or practice of engaging in sexual activity indiscriminately esp. for money”. These are literary definition. Law also definies these 2. I am of the opinion that laws are always designed to have loopholes. So only a moral definition of these stands the test of time. So I define porn not as creative, but destructive activity & any instance of sexual activity outside the sacred marriage is prostitution. Its difficult to agree considering the moral permissiveness that’s ruling the roost these days. If we don’t recognize the nakedness we see in TOI or a sleazy remix video as porn, it is just a matter of time before we accept porn as ‘creative’. Media with its fake surveys will tell you that ‘majority’ watch porn, or visit brothels. That’s the power of these evils – they have advocates everywhere, in the media, among the lawmakers & among ourselves. Even if 99% ppl support these evils, the remaining 1% is right bcos ‘morality is not decided by majority’. Will your whole family watch porn as u watch a cricket match? Or can a guy come home & tell his mom that he had been to a brothel? That’s proof enough that these are wrong.
Why P&P flourish: mainly bcos of the indifference, moral permissivenss, loopholes in law, ineffective enforcement of law & wrong understanding of freedom. Porn is a secret sin, no one writes on their CV that they watch porn or visit brothels. Thanks to technology & internet its available plenty & free. Modern pleasure seeing mentality has ensured that many of us are also active in spreading porn! How? Do u recall that Fwd mail with half bare bollywood stars? Or that MMS clip that made news? If you happily forwarded these to ur friends, you were in fact spreading porn. I had to be 20+ to have first glimpse of naked pics of women. Today thanks to papers like TOI today kids are exposed to a lot of dirt too early. Now you never know who is a prostitute, she does business with the latest cellphones, she can be an actress, a BPO worker or the girl next door. It is alarming to know that many educated young women have taken to prostitution as a way of life.
Why P&P are evil: They are evil for the simple reasons that at their roots are the ‘love of money’ & ‘contempt for women’. While porn is denigrating to women, prostitution simply reduces them to objects. Continued exposure to these 2 results in men losing sense of morality, which is unhealthy for a society. A porn watcher/supporter can never respect women or womanhood. These two evils together turn sacred sex into a product/service. Porn is also evil bcos its addictive. & gradually the addict will start looking for more vulgar content in the process he becomes desensitized to the images, loses sense of right & wrong, then he may even act out these perversions. A porn addict can never have a happy married life bcos porn has alredy programmed him subliminally. Marital discord is matter of time as the couples no longer see each other as human persons but rather as sex objects.
Examples: I once spoke to a very young porn addict who made a chill go thru my spine by his condition. He tells me ‘bhaiya, what got me started was the semi-nakedness in pages of TOI, they began to stir my imaginations & soon I wanted to see full nude women, I got on the net, slowly I moved to movies, I have now seen all perversions possible. & the images I saw I cant forget, they are in front of my eyes everytime, even when I am at temples, I cant look at any woman, without thinking of sex with them…. I wish I were born blind” He was living in hell which is a state of self hatred.
Ek bhale maanush ko amaanush banaa ke choda: A 60yr old retired govt servant is suddenly guilty of raping a 5 yr old girl from the neighbourhood. how such a good man fell to such levels. The answer was porn. All his life never seen anything porn. After retirement he had lots of time. His son who is in US buys him a computer so they can keep in touch. The old man is in awe of PC, IT & internet. He learns fast ..& then he finds porn on the net. He is now seeing a world he didn’t know abt. Slowly his moral sense is dead. From a family man, dad, senior citizen he is now a child rapist. He is now repenting having seen porn & the resulting brainwashing that women were objects to be penetrated.
The Litmus Test: like u, I am also born of a woman, my sisters, some of my friends & colleagues, my future bride, my future daughters – all are women. That’s reason enough for us to say no to these 2 evils that degrade human beings esp women. It has become fashionable for many to say ‘Its OK’ for everything including P&P, in the name of being liberal. Let me tell you there is no middle path here, its simply – either you support these evils or you are against them. I am still looking for the man who said ‘these two are OK bcos they get money to someone, they provide jobs to many’ .. by that logic murder is also OK bcos someone gets the supaari job, suppari money?
For all those who watch porn/support prostitution here is the ultimate litmus test – wud you still enjoy that porn clip if it featured your mother, sister, daughter? Will u say ‘it’s a job, its OK’ if someone said the above ppl were whores? If your answer is YES, then all I can say is ‘May God have mercy on U’. If you got angry, felt like throwing the mouse at me, I presume your answer was NO, then say NO to these evils forever & spread the word. I assure you, you will die a lot happier. ;-) .. you can still throw the mouse, as I am in need of one ;-)
What Can You Do: The other reason I wrote this was this: sometime ago at a cybercafé I saw a poster by ‘Students Islamic Organisation’ (sio-india.org) which alerted users to shun porn giving the revenue figures of online porn, saying if the same money was used for better purposes the whole world could be ensured of education & health. Now such campaigns are in the nation’s interest. My friend who runs the café now throws out anyone found seeing adult sites. As a businessman he could have chosen to be indifferent. I appreciate these ppl bcos they are standing up for something. “if u don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything” I am giving the link to their related article in the comments.
If you agree that they are evil & wrong, spread the message, let more & more people turn away from these. Don’t wait for the world to stop supplying porn & then become a good boy, shun it NOW.
contd in comments, plz forgive ;-)