It’s Love when you argue over how many children to have. It would be a baby boy or baby girl. It’s Lust when you argue over who should be blamed for it and how to get over it.
I guess through this aphorism the actual difference between Love and Lust is crystal clear to all of you. Now let me discuss these three (cyclic) words here which describe the movie.
Infatuation: Infatuation can be termed as “being a fool for love” . Yes, you are trying to fool yourself by calling it love. The life cycle of Infatuation can be described as stricken (special meaning of a special voice or special look) – intrusive thinking (After that special meaning here comes the storm of intrusive thinking) – idealization (intrusive thinking try to blind your self with some idealization)– and emotional rollercoaster (when your dream meets reality). In simple words, Infatuation lacks confidence, when they’re away, you wonder if they’re cheating, sometimes, you check. Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. They feel your trust, and it makes them even more trustworthy. Most of our today’s (Generation Next) love story is nothing but just an infatuation because it falls under this cycle only.
Lust: It’s all about passion, enjoy, fun without any respect, trust and sacrifice. It’s your fear that what will happened if people outside will come to know about us. Lust is always selfish, rebellious, rude, egotistical and hateful. Lust destroys the tradition of marriage. It’s a rebellious feeling towards society and it always hurt somebody. Remember in simple words, Lustful acts leads into premarital sex.
Compromise: Each individual knows what is right and what is wrong still they do wrong things. The reason behind this is their will power. They don’t have a strong will power which can secure them from adopting bad things. Once you are into the well you try to compromise with the environment because you know coming out of well is very tough and the scent of well will always be there even if you are out of well. Falling in well is your lack of will power and living in well is compromise.
Live-In-Relationship: The one word given to Live in Relationship is Cohabitation and the actual definition of Cohabitation is, “Cohabitation is an emotional, physical, and intellectually intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without the benefit of legal, cultural, or religious sanction.” Couples prefer cohabitation because it does not legally commit them for an extended period of time, and because it is easier to establish and dissolve. There’s nothing called LOVE within it. The average age of cohabiting couple is 20-32. You can imagine their life after 32.
Before writing this review I read few reviews of my MS friends. I read the recommendation of prasiddha (prasidddha), Muneeb (mouthshutdotcom), Sachien (sachien), Milind (milinddesai), Hareesh (itskunchumon), Bhavna (bhavna), orknob, Pras (cticize), Snigdha (snigdhadream), Mister (captcharisma22 ) and whitedevil. I also read the review of Sakshi (lallupanju) where she has not recommended the movie. I would like to discuss few excerpts from these reviews.
Whitedevil says, “Salaam Namaste is a movie about loving, living and living together while loving without the license of living to learn whether the license in worth investing into..”. I would like to say marriage is much more than just a license.
Mister says, “These days, how guys perceive girls and how girls perceive them is what love stories are all about. And in the case of SALAAM NAMASTE, director Siddhaart Raj Anand made sure he executed everything with a taste of the youth in mind. No rona dhona on baseless issues at all.” I would say rona dhona to yaha bhi hai but there’s no respect for feelings here.
Snigdha says, “As long as you do things because you love to do, the relation has its true value. When you do because you are bound to do then there is no point in doing it. Life becomes just a routine work and nothing else”. I would say you can’t like everything in our life but there is a holy bondage which keeps us going. We don’t even like everything in our family but it doesn’t mean we will leave our family for this reason.
Pras says, “She asks you about your feelings for her. You say Hmm (I am confused about who will pay for the date (~))”. I would say better enjoy the so called DATE and PAYMENT don’t even think of feelings. He also says, “For both love needed time to materialize and so they get into something called Live-In Relationship . Do they continue? , or it gets ended as just another relationship that never was meant to be that way. For more Salaam Namaste to the theatres”. I would say each relationship which doesn’t have respect as it’s base will have a disastrous end. It may be happy ending in the movie but never in real life.
I have just discussed these write ups from a different point of view. No offence meant to any of these writers.
Marriage is an institution of respect, trust, sacrifice and love. It’s not a burden, it’s a sweet responsibility. “Apne jeevansathi ke prati samarpan ki bhavna” is not just our tradition compiled by some old people having orthodox thinking. It’s a discovery of social scientists for happy living. Do believe in our tradition, it will always lead towards real happiness.
I would love to listen your views in comment section. Feel free to post your honest comment regardless of whether it’s appreciation or disagreement.