?Astitva ? Zindagi ki kahani? would have been the appropriate title for this TV soap opera. All the colors of life ? love, friendship, affection, enmity, misunderstandings reflect in this serial. Human relationships have been portrayed in a beautiful manner. Relationship between ? two friends, father and daughter, sisters, wife and husband, brother and sister has been shown in a natural manner. The best part is the viewer get to see the positive and negative side of these relationships. How life looks from the perspective of a matured person as well as from an immatured person? If you want to know the answer, you must watch this serial.
I would like to briefly explain the story and then write my comments on it :
Simran is a beautiful and famous doctor who runs Astha Nursing Home. She loves Abhimanyu Joshi(Mahesh Thakur) in college days. But, a war separates them. Everyone thinks he lost his life in that war. Almost after 10yrs(after spending enough time for building her career), she happens to meet Abhimanyu Saxena during Abhi?s sister?s delivery. That time she is 34 and he is 24. Inspite of everyone?s opposition, they get married. Their problems begin, after Simran conceives. Abhi doesn?t want it at this stage and for Simaran its necessary because later on it becomes difficult for her due to medical reasons. But, her husband never understands this reason. Apart from this he falls in love with his asst Kiran and his mom also encourages this relationship. Finally their intimacy turns out to be the reason for Abhi and Simran?s separation. But, Abhi?s sister Anandi and his dad always support her. Although Simran?s relationship with her dad strains because of her marriage with Abhi, finally he supports her in difficult times. Even after delivering Astha, she goes through phases of depression and finally emerges as a winner with the help of her friend Dr.Manas, Dr.Pranoy and her family members. In the meanwhile she files for divorce.
Abhi gets married to Kiran and very soon their differences increase because of Kiran?s intimacy with Anil Souri, a business tycoon. Abhi?s mom warns Simran that she shouldn?t talk to any of her family members i.e Abhi, Abhi?s sister and his dad. So, when Anandi needs Simran, she doesn?t answer Anandi?s call and finally Anandi dies during her delivery. This is one of reasons for Simran?s depression. Even Manas?s life also goes through somewhat similar situations and he divorces his wife Urmila. Both Manas and simran attend a meditation workshop and that really brings a new ray of hope to their life. Now Dr.Abhimanyu Joshi comes back surprisingly and Pranoy and Simran really help him in retaining his memory power. Abhi leaves everyone and starts staying in remote place, working as a photojournalist. He realizes his mistakes and feels guilty. That?s why he takes this step. Everyone wants Simran and Abhimanyu joshi to get married and after thinking a lot Simran agrees for this.
Urmila kills Ashwin, for whom she had left her husband Manas and son Sonu. Simran and Manas pardon her and help her in coming out from that trauma and her case is going on. Simran?s sister Kavita dies of cancer and wants Rashmi(Simran & Kavita?s younger sister, a widow ) to marry her husband Rohit for the sake of her son Akshay. Rashmi is in love with her professor, Pranoy. As she wants to fulfill her sister?s last desire, she agrees for the marriage. But, finally Simran makes the things clear to Rohit(Kavita?s husband) and her dad and makes Rashmi agree for the marriage with Pranoy. Finally Abhi?s mother also realizes her mistakes and mellows down.
Well! This is the story. Now coming to the analysis part, each pair mentioned in the above paragraph had good times as well as bad times. Like simran and Abhi were madly in love with each other initially and every time Abhi was amazed with her personality. But, he was not matured enough to understand Simran. This had really ruined his life. He is short tempered guy, but good natured. But, his mistakes dominate his positive points. Although he repents upon his blunders later on, it becomes too late. Every time simran tried to handle the situation with her trust and understanding. But, every thing fails. I would like to present my observation in the following manner :
What I felt was you should trust your partner and love him unconditionally, but, once in a while you should keep a track of his/her activities. This thing can be learnt from both Manas and Simran?s life. Simran never believed in holding any thing tightly. Its true. Sometimes people might find this attitude careless or ridiculous, but its results are visible in long run. Her only mistake was she had never paid attention to Abhi?s activities and trusted him blindly. Although everyone warned her, she didn?t pay attention until the have really lost control.
Its very important to love yourself. Once Simran says to Abhi before leaving him ? ? Abhi! Main tumse pyar karti hoon, magar usse bhi zyada main apne aap se pyar karti hoon. Tumhari galtiyon ko nazar andaaz karke, tumhare saath rehkar main apni nazaron me girna nahin chahti?. Many a times, it happens that when u love somebody, u try to ignore his/her negative points and want to to do ur best for him/her. That?s good. But, if its hurting ur self respect, u should really think about it seriously. Otherwise it becomes too late and you lose ur confidence.
If a person wants his/her own identity, its important to believe in oneself and never lose confidence and cool. Otherwise even the most intelligent might end up losing every thing.
Although it might look impractical and very ideal, one should always forgive the mistakes of others. You need not love the person any more, but u shouldn?t keep any negative feelings for that person. After forgiving that person, u will really feel nice and find more zeal in you.
It is positive attitude that really makes you a winner. Simran?s positive attitude always helped her.
One might be a celebrity for outsiders. But, for the family members you should always be the same person. Otherwise, you are going to lose your dear ones in life.
If you feel whatever you are doing is correct, you should never put your foot back. Initially you might face lot of criticism. But, ultimately your sincere efforts and your belief will yield you good results. This has always been proved in Simran and Pranoy?s life. Even after coming across with many hurdles, they didn?t give up and finally Dr.Joshi had become a normal person. President?s award got them recognition also. That?s the spirit you need to take bold steps.
This way there are many points, which can be written here. I personally got benefited from this serial. It has a great impact on my attitude. I have been watching it for the past 1.7 yrs and I really find it useful for every generation. I started visualizing life with a different approach. One might find it difficult to adopt this kind of attitude, but, its not impossible. All the characters did justice to their respective roles. I hope the director wouldn?t drag it too much and gives a reasonable ending to it.