When you are going to attend a party, the first thing you must think is about punctuality. I can remember an old saying here.’ Punctuality is the prerogative of kings’. You must remember the importance of punctuality. Arriving more than a few minutes late shows lack of manners, unless there is a good explanation. To avoid this happening, note down the name of your host, date and time in your diary. If you don’t use one, you can mark this in your calender.
Don’t go empty handed for a party. At the same time, be careful not to embarrass by too much generosity. You must use your discretion here. If the hostess has a garden full of flowers, it is not wiser to take chocolates or a bottle of wine. A few bulbs or a small plant for the garden will make an ideal gift. When my friend’s family left Canada for good, they gifted us an indoor plant when they attended our party. The plant is growing well along with the love we have for each other. Thoughtful gifts always bring back beautiful memories. Don’t you think so?
When your host has taken too much trouble to entertain you, you have to put up with certain things. You shouldn’t grumble that the room is too hot, demanding the windows be opened etc. You could become a pain in the neck, as well as inducing one! Try to fit in with what is happening and enjoy yourself . Avoid grumbling and moaning.
Among the guests, if you find someone whom you don’t like, don’t be openly hostile. Keep the conversation brief and try to move away as soon as possible. You encounter this problem rarely.
After the party is over, give a helping hand to your hosts. Help them in cleaning and tidying up the place. This is good manners and is your way of showing appreciation for all the effort taken by them to entertain you.
Regarding the meals, if you have an allergy and cannot eat fish or any other food, politely explain before you arrive either by telephone or letter, that you cannot eat fried fish or whatever. You shouldn’t say’ I cannot eat this’, as the fish dish is being served. It is embarassing!
Don’t over - stay! It is good manners to leave after the party is over, instead of lingering around, unless you wish to help your host with cleaning up the mess in the room.
When it comes to taking your leave, do not forget to thank your hosts profusely. You have enjoyed your time and giving thanks is a good etiquette. Children especially often expect a goodnight cuddle from the guests.
In case you need to leave a party early, you must find the host and say good - bye without attracting attention. Leave gracefully, without disturbing others who are enjoying the party.
I think I have said what I wanted to regarding the party etiquettes expected from a guest. Hope you find this helpful.