If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together, there is something you must always remember, “you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart, I’ll always be with you.”
Someone to sit beside you in silence: Somewhere in our heart we always crave for a friend, who, we can feel, is always with us. No matter what the circumstances are, we can always count on him. The greatest thing one can do for his friend is to make him feel his presence. I’m living out of my home, far away from my family from last 4 years but I never felt so much homesickness as I felt in last couple of months. It made me realize the importance of a true friend in your life. Sometimes we just need somebody to sit beside us without even speaking a word. Sometimes we need someone to talk about your feelings. It may be related to anything, from your household to your profession.
Friends Forever: There is a very well saying about a friend. It says, “Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow; don’t walk behind me, I may not lead; Walk beside me, and just be my friend.” In our entire lifetime we meet with several people. Few people inspire us, few attract us, few love us, few hurt us but very rare we find a friend who can be with us, in any means. And a person seems to be fortunate if he gets such a friend who can be with him always.
Only time will tell you: People always have an obvious question. How you will be able to identify that he is a good friend and will be with you in your tough times? I say, you can’t judge it in first view. You need time to grow it and feel it. When you see several ups and downs in your life then you realize who is true friend. Generally people will always with you in your happy times, they will laugh with you, enjoy with you but when you really need their someone to be around you, none will be there. You will find most of the people opportunists here. They will be with you when their needs are satisfied. Once their need is over, they will kick you and will move ahead. Again it’s a normal way of life and we shouldn’t be anxious about it. Different people have different perception and surely they will act differently. We should put our best in each of our deeds, that’s the way we can enjoy the real charisma of this life.
Friendship in my own way: Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go, and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces, when it’s all over. Let me share few things, which I used to do for my friends. If a friend come to me to help him out for an assignment, which I have already done. I don’t help him. I tell him to solve it by his own. I know he will not feel good about me but I also know that it will help himself, to enhance his skills. If a friend is happy, I allow him to enjoy his happiness the way he wants. But if he is sad, I dig out the reason by all means and never leave him alone. I don’t bother him, in making plans but always put myself if there’s any risk associated. If I see a friend in problem, I go and help him to come out of it. Once he comes out of that, I simply quite so that he can enjoy his life on his own, without feeling any interdependency. I remember few days back one of my friends called me. I was in office and some how I felt that he is not comfortable. I left office immediately and went to him. I saw his eyes were full of tears. When he saw me, he embraced me tightly and started crying like a kid. I was stunned because I had never seen him crying. Few minutes I was just standing like a statue. Then I sat with him, and listened his concerns. After 1 hour, I again left for office. When I was leaving for office, he said, “I wanted you to be here but didn’t say as you were in office. Thanks a lot for coming, I would have done anything if you would have not come today.” In today’s stressful scenario, just your continuous and unconditional presence can make a big difference to anybody’s life. If your friend can never feel that he is alone, then only you can claim yourself to be a good friend. This is the biggest gift you can give to any of your friend. I believe friendship is sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. And we should always remember our responsibilty if we want to be a good friend.
Woman can be a better friend: When I was child, my mom use to tell me, the kind of love, the kind of patience, the kind of forgiveness a women have, men can never have. So a woman can always be a better friend than a man. She taught me to always respect woman because it’s one the most beautiful creation of God. She told me that a girl could make your life like heaven, so always treat them with dignity. But same time she also warned me to keep ourselves away from any woman who doesn’t have her dignity with her, who has lost her character. She says, “A woman having no shame in her own eyes can be very dangerous, so keep your self away from any such woman.” I always remember my mom’s word. When I was at my home my mom used to be my best friend because she was always with me in every means. She was there to laugh with me, she was there to celebrate the happiness with me when I got any award, and she was there to cry with me when I met with an accident. I never need any friend in my entire 20 years of life because she was always there for me. Then I went out in search of few dreams. I faced the real world. I saw different faces of society, different kind of people. But lessons of my mom are always with me. I never took any deviation from those lessons. I’m writing this review on World’s Women’s Day and I sincerely express my respect towards all women specially my mom who taught me the lessons of life. Few people say it’s not good to distinguish people on the basis on gender. I disagree with them. I do feel differentiation Women are different and I treat them differently. I wish Happy Women’s Day to all.
Friendship is a very common word to use but very rare thing to find. I have experienced friendship, although apart from my mom I can’t claim anybody as my best friend till date. Here I would like to convey a message to all my friends, especially MS friends.
This is my wish for you: Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds, laughter to kiss your lips, sunsets to warm your heart, hugs when spirits sag, beauty for your eyes to see, friendships to brighten your being, faith so that you can believe, confidence for when you doubt, courage to know yourself, patience to accept the truth, Love to complete your life.
*Thanks for being my friend and reading this review patiently… Please proceed to the comment section and put your views about friendship.