I am not writing this article with intent to give my gyaan on sex knowledge but it’s related to the sexual act of mating and courtship which we practice, its not to offend male sex but to only bring out the fact that majority of Indian men tend to practice the act of mating in which they dominate the courtship game and the woman plays a second fiddle, which has not to be the case, also for the one’s who feel they are missing something these days in their act of performing courtship, they feel the spice in their bed has being lost, it can be brought back!
As a man would try to initiate the act of performing sex in most of the cases, women to have lot of feelings running through their mind and even they may want to experiment, so a man can start with foreplay and go ahead and make the woman feel confident for her to be an equal partner in the act of mating. One would feel that they are just losing the fun element in their sexual relationships, which may be because of pre-dominance of one of the sexes, which is not healthy for both the parties, it may be so that the guy is charged up and raring to go but the lady is just too tired, maybe she had a hectic day, she may doze off and the guy may feel turned down, same is vice versa, so learn to read your partners mood, is she/he ready for it tonight, do not force or charge up like a bull, running towards a red cloth, the art of lovemaking can be made seductive and can turn on any one of them even if they are tired and have given up for the day, try making the atmosphere inside the room a bit romantic, try freshening up the room with a good room freshener, try scented candles, lit them around your bed, have your bed sheets changed to blue or red satin sheets, have dim lights glowing in corners of your room or lit towards the ceiling, get some soft romantic or seductive numbers playing slowly behind.
A good amount of foreplay is sure to get both of you charged up; it necessitates the need to know each others turn on spots, and once you are fully done with the act of foreplay and realize that both of you are ready to mate, it would give you a different feeling every time and may never make u feel that this is something you do it daily, a woman’s hot spots would be located near her breasts, her waist, behind her neck, lips, back portion of the knees, thighs, and a man’s would be behind his ears, below tummy, back portion of knees, his chest, waist. It depends upon person to person how they discover their hotspots as the above mentioned areas would not always be the default.
Once you are done with the act, don’t just lie snoozing as if everything is over, try caressing each other sometime, and appreciate your partner how well did he had sex with him/her, share your moments of joy when you felt you were in the 7th heaven. Also try innovating in your bed dressing, try something that would be a turn on for your partner, I’m not saying stock a lingerie store or night wardrobe shop, but have one or two such naughty night dresses in your wardrobe. Leave love notes for your partner at different places in house where they are supposed to find it accidentally, it would bring a wide smile on their face when they read it when you are not around. Try different positions, not just for the sake of trying but, try the ones which are comfortable for both of you. Escape to a locale once in a year where you can spend much of time cuddling with each other, or try giving your partner a romantic massage, have a bath together play with each others private parts, giving them a lather bath, but just to take care your love innovations should not be weird ideas for your partner else he/she may get disillusioned, so the list can go on…………… and it will surely help you bring that twist and spice in your sexual relationships.