Where Did My Romeo Go?
Being in love makes us happy and sometimes the happiness it gives makes us blinded to realize the consequences and the reality. It sometimes makes us selfless to the point where we were not who we used to be anymore. But who cares? We’re in love and we’re happy, that’s all that matters. It feels like heaven brought down to earth. Couples are so much high, loving life. As if they got a world of their own. All promises, sweet nothings, endearments, hours of phone conversation, petty fights, sweet jealousy and all the other stuffs that people in love feel are really superb.
Everything seems perfect, fine, and smooth sailing. But what if inspite these beautiful factors, a relationship fails- after dreams were weaved, plans and promises were made, one already depended and trusted on the other. It will surely be a disastrous phase, right? Most especially if a person believed much on that relation and already invested all his emotions on that particular commitment. Damn! It can kill, I swear. The feeling was awful and feels like the world suddenly stopped- giving us the feeling of having an unfinished business. And it will really take time, long time, to heal. Been there. This was one of the problems I have encountered in my life that I found really hard to deal with because it involves emotions. And no matter how we deny it just to be ideal, deep inside we know that our hearts are still powerful than our minds. We used to say, “Use your mind over your heart.” It is easier said than done. People in love only understand its kind.
Now, Broken Relationships in general.
It’s over. It’s done. Gone. Bye-bye. Ciao. Sorry. Poof!
At first, try to save it with all your might and fight for the love you still believe in. Forget about your pride. Save the dreams. Save the man/woman you loved the most at that time. Then if it still didn’t work, FACE IT. DEAL WITH IT.
Cry as much as you want. Cry. Cry. Cry and cry until you get tired and feel nothing at all. Cry until you get numb. Never force yourself to forget all the memories, hence, treasure it. If you force yourself, it’s a fake and the result will be seen on your next relation. You must get over it naturally.
Feel sad. It’s normal. But try to have a life. Do something and keep yourself busy even for few hours. And if you feel alone and you miss him, let it be.
Have an outlet to keep you focused that will surely make you forget for a while. Call some friends to be with you even for a simple malling, shopping, or simply going to different places where your group will enjoy. At this point, friends are really essential. They can be a big help for the future you- the healed you.
Never regret anything. Never ever blame yourself for loving that person that much because somehow, once in your life, you became happy and were able to learn lots of things from him. Keep in mind that you’ve already done your part, given your best shot and became an almost-perfect person for him, so if there’s someone who must regret, it’s him and not you. For sure you will be missed more than you miss him…
My Positive View: Forgiving, moving on and forgetting is a process. Only time can heal, and that we can’t predict. But always remember that it’s better to move on with a clean heart because the one who’s really meant and destined for us by God deserves a better seat in our hearts as well as in ourlives. Love and relationships may have failed us so many times, broken us into pieces but never give up and stop believing on the goodness of LOVE. Always remember that life is a journey and in every path we take, we meet people along the way, gain experiences(good or bad) that makes us stronger and smarter each time. By the end of the road, after such a long, tiring, and shaky travel, awaits a man/woman not just destined but really made for us. And until then we can confidently say goodbye to broken relationships.
~I remember my Dad once told me, "In every mistake that you may face in life, learn from it and never look back. Most of all, refrain from doing the same mistake again. Once is enough, two is too much."
But what if it’s about love? I guess for me, this is the only "mistake" that’s worth gambling for. Just a thought, don’t take it otherwise.
-Krissy