*There are 3 kinds of people as Get me said. In the film Pardes, Amrish Puri differentiates love in India and love in the US, he says in USA when you love someone, u give and take, while in India it means give, give and give.
*So that is how the relationships are. It happens that we take from a person more and more and give to someone else more and more. You take help, financial, material, personal, advisory and et al from a person and continue doing that. The person will not necessarily come to you when in Need but go to someone else. That means that the love or relationship in India is right, always one way. " GIVE GIVE AND GIVE"
So when do relationship break? They do when we think that this relation of give-give and give will continue forever, which cannot be possible in this world due to its own constraints and make life very unhealthy.
People have expectations, should have many a times. and this is the cause for the breaking the relationships several times. I expect my friend/lover/wife/ etc. will do this for me, and they don’t stand to my expectation. There’s a Brake(not a break) in realtionship. It does not break down, but relationship gets applied with Brake.
It is very important we find the brake, loosen it to our comfort and say "sorry" sometimes even if we arent at fault( as keepaway reviews says its very easy to say it) and break the ice! By saying a five letter English word "sorry" if a broken relationship breaks then use it, dont be kanjoos in it!
So, when we start a new relationship, lets keep our expectation to bare minimum, and explain a friend to keep the minimum expectation from you, difficult, very difficult, but you start with brakes intact for a long journey to avoid hitting on the way.
Once a thread is broken as Kabir the poet said it cannot be tied without a knot, so is then thread of relationship. So its better to keep a relationship with slightly brakes applied and avoid a joint than running it full speed and breaking it!
Prevention is better than cure. Take care not to break a relationship and when it does, make a neat Knot.
*So how to make this knot?
* WEll thats the difficult part. First try to analyse the situation 80% of the times it is simple misunderstanding that has caused the breakup, just think how you can make the joint. If the other party cannot negotiate with us, its no problem to allow time to cure in the first instance, only take care that you dont make any more breaks.
Then there can be second option of entry of a common friends, but it is more of a bane than a boon to make a third party enter. Mutual friends do it with the expectation of getting something and thats no harm! They get it by finding you happy, but take care to be present together, once words leaves the mouth it cannot be carried in the way as it was said even by the videotape, coz the real words with circumstances remain same1
Thirdly attracting the party to make up by giving bribe is another way, just take care when you are bribed to accept it. If you are ready to accept joints, otherwise, there’s no point reading all upto this.