I read some of the reviews on this topic and was quite sad to see so many opinions based on changing oneself so that you are suited to everyone elses needs.
I believe that those people who are having tough times at school because they do not meet the standards of those egotistic people, need to lift up their assertiveness. They do not need to change themselves. Please do not change yourself. It is those bullies that need to change their ways. Let me ask all you bullies or cat fighters out there why you can’t just accept people for the way they are? You are obviously not happy with yourself, but to take that out on someone else is just not fair!
Do you feel confident when you are not yourself? Let me guess...NO! So then why let other people who are right little intruders ruin the way you feel about yourself and who you are. Don’t answer to them, answer to yourself, because at the end of the day it is your life not theirs’, and it is you that you have to please.
I have been through some bullying myself and I’m proud and glad to say that I never changed myself to suit others. I actually gained more qualities through being a victim. I have gained a lot more independence with myself, I have become a person who doesn’t really give a damn to what people think of me, I can say to others now that I am me and you cannot change that, so I’ve gained a lot of confidence. You have to be strong and not let anyone see that you’re weak and easy to pick on. And you know what I think those people finally realised that I didn’t take in what they thought of me. They got the picture in the end.
Other reviews on this topic suggested things like joining up sports so that people see you as a more tougher individual. I disagree totally. How would you like to be a person that you are not? Haven’t we all been taught to be ourselves? I mean what if you’re not into sports?
It takes a lot of searching to find a true friend, and I’m very happy to say that I have found one. Remember as Hrithik Roshan says ’out of every bad comes something good’.
BE YOURSELF!
Alaina
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