NOTE: These are my random thoughts on depression & life. Not a review on’Handling Depression’ in its strict sense.
’A 15 yr. old girl committed suicide as she was flunked in her exams.’
There is no dearth of such cases and the newspapers are filled with such morbid headlines. When we come across such cases we ask ourselves, ’Is it that easy?’ Theoritically, its damn easy. All u need to do is to pick up a knife & stab ur wrist. The blood would start to pour out & u would be gone within minutes. No hassles, no efforts. There are lotsa other ways too but I told u the easiest one.
So, c’mon now, lets have a practical demo of the same. Go & get a knife. C’mon get up now.
U can’t. U just cannot do it.
Now just imagine how come some ppl - who r just like us - take such a drastic step. What compels them to do something which, though very much possible, seems to be impossible to all of us? Just imagine their state of mind.
The bottomline is u need to have a certain state of mind in order to commit suicide. And that state of mind which compels a person to commit suicide or indulge in a act which seems impossible in normal circumstances; is known as’depression’.
Dictionary defines depression as, ’a severe despondency & dejection, especially when long-lasting.’ Words like sadness, mental anguish, agony, lonliness comes into picture with the word depression. Depression is not a funny state to be in. It is a drastic condition & a person who has gone through it, can only understand it well.
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What is Happiness?
Happiness is the ultimate goal of every person. He seeks happiness - everlasting happiness - in this world. But he learns that happiness comes & then fades away. It evaporates. It doesn’t last. Why is it so? Why can’t we get everlasting happiness? The reason is that these worldy objects & things cannot give us everlasting happiness. We get something, we feel happy for it; then the things goes away & we feel sad. All this makes us wonder what do God want? Actually He is just trying to show us that our life on earth is temporary. Whatever He is giving us on this earth is for the time-being. Eventually if life has to end someday then whats the fuss about. There is one life & we should decide to live it just the way it is. To be happy we should always bear in mind that everything is for the time-being. Don’t fall in love with things & people; but Fall In Love With God.
The external factors are not important to measure our happiness. Happiness doesn’t depend on the circumstances or the situations coz these external things are out of our control. These things around us will keep on changing, the way it has since years. The change is bound to happen to all external things & we simply can’t do anything about it. These are secondary. The prima facie thing is our inner self, our mind. The thought that we nurture inside our mind. These thoughts have got tremendous power & these are the only determinants of our disposition.
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Life is a journey. It starts when we are born & ends as soon as we die. We have to learn to travel on this path of life. We learn as we proceed. It is an ubiquitous art - Art of Living - which everyone must learn.
Object of the game:
It is not to reach the end as soon as possible. But its the way we reached the end. Winner is the one who reaches the end with happiness in all ways. With every move we make, it adds to plus or minus points. If the move we made, intends to harm others; we get a negative point; and if it intends to benefit someone, we get a positive point. In the end, our total score matters. The more, the better. So, the aim is to score as much points as we can.
Rules of the game:
We can go only in one direction i.e. forward. We cannot go back or in other words, there is no reverse gear. What is done, cannot be undone. What is said, cannot be unsaid.
The end point( i.e death) is not a physical point. There is a time limit. The game ends with the time.
How to play?
Just keep on going. Try to score as much positive points as u can. The more the points, more are the chances to win. Its a time bound game, so never stop going. Just go on & on & on.
Some useful tips:
Don’t be bothered about others. Like u, even they are here to play. They can play it the way they wish. U have no control over them. U cannot force them to tread ur path. They have the full liberty to adopt their ways. Let them what they are. Be least bothered about their ways. Always remember, it doesn’t matter if someone is ahead of u. Coz speed is not a concern of the game. What is significant is the score. Just take care of the score and nothing else.
Don’t let the situations & circumstances dominate u. A bad situation gives u an opportunity to gain more points. Take advantage of such circumstances.
Enjoy & rejoice in all possible ways. Coz when u r rejoiced, ur heart becomes happy & establishes connection with God(star power). And when in the grace of star power, u would get double points for every good deed.
Cherish what all is coming in ur way. Don’t bother about what others are getting.
It is meant to be played all alone. Associate with people but never get attached to them.
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All I will say is that take it easy. Life is for enjoyment. Not for cribbing. Don’t crib. Just live with whatever u have and enjoy it. As they say.
’Life is like an ice-cream, enjoy it before it melts.’
Happy Living.!