I have re-edited this opinion as I felt my comments were unfair and I took to heart what was said about this in the wrong way. So I just thought that I had better explain why I am re-editing this again.
I have suffered with stress problems since I was young. I have depression and anxiety problems so I am going to tell you from a personal view-point what I have found helpful.
Getting stressed is something that we all don’t want. It makes you unhappy, irritable and difficult to live with. I have found that when you are stressed the one thing you need the most is to relax and that’s difficult when you just feel the need to shout. Sometimes shouting is just what you need. It’s maybe not who you shout at, but what you shout at. Like if you were to shout into a pillow. What harm could that do?
Meditation can sometimes help. Just sit yourself in a nice comfy chair and put some nice relaxing music on like instrumental music. Think of a place you would like to be somewhere far away where no-one can reach you, your on your own there and you feel very safe. Like a beach or a field, somewhere nice. Then stay there for however long you want. When you bring yourself back to the awareness of the room you should feel different. More relaxed and clam.
Taking a nice warm bath filled with bubbles will always help and you can do your meditation in the bath. Try to put some nice lavender candles round the bath and maybe some incense.
Deep relaxation is simple - anyone can do it. It is best done once or twice a day and can help to assist your body in recovering from distress and prevent the build-up of tension, fatigue and anxiety.
’From NHS information that I felt would be suitable for you to read and may benefit you’
Step 1.
Sit in a comfortable position.(Support your upper back, neck and head.) A quiet place where you will not be interrupted is best.
Step 2.
Slowly draw in and exhale a deep breath. Check your shoulders for stiffness or a tense position. Allow them to fall back naturally in a relaxed position. Take in a second deep breath and close your eyes.
Step 3.
Complete a body check to locate any areas of tension and tightness. Take each area and relax the muscles. Visualise the tension releasing and slipping away as warmth and relaxation flow into the area. You might imagine yourself basking in the sun and feeling the sun warm your area of tension.(If you are having difficulty evaluating whether or not you are relaxing a specific area, try increasing the tension in the muscle, hold that tightness for a count of 10, then release.)
Step 4.
Starting with your feet, slowly work up through the body, relaxing muscle groups and areas of tightness and tension. Imagine warmth flowing into each area, muscles becoming heavy and comforting relaxation replacing tightness or tension. Once you’ve progressed throughout your body, focus on your hands(alternatively, you can focus on any area of tension you’d like to work on). Create a sentence that you can repeat to yourself, emphasising warmth, heaviness and relaxation, such as’My hands are warm, heavy and relaxed.’
Step 5.
Don’t be discouraged if at first your mind tends to wander away to other thoughts. Once you’re aware that you have wandered to other thoughts, simply come back and focus again on the area you are relaxing. Try to notice how good it feels to have some quiet time to yourself and how comfortable it is to let go of any tightness or tension you may have.
Step 6.
Deep relaxation is most effective when practised for a length of 20 minutes. If you find that sitting still for that long is more stress-inducing than stress-reducing, then start with a period of five to ten minutes and gradually build up to 20 minutes.
Step 7.
Always end your relaxation session with several deep breaths. Then, after slowly opening your eyes, maintain your relaxation position for a few minutes before resuming your next activity.
’End Of NHS information’
Relaxation exercises can be so helpful in restoring your calm. It is so important to keep calm because in this day and age where we all seem to be rushing around it seems so hard and difficult to do. Getting close to loved ones and sharing time with them helps too. We all need to talk and I have found talking to be very beneficial because we are unloading our stress and burdens.
I personally have found prayer very beneficial I don’t know what I would do if it wasn’t for prayer. I believe in Jesus and I always know that He is listening to me. Without Him I would be in a much worse condition.
Just relax and clear your mind from all stress and give your worries to Jesus. He will help you.
There are two types of stress and stress can surprisingly be beneficial just so long as we recognise what good and bad stress are. When are stress turns to distress that’s when the problems occur, but when stress turns to us recognising the need to relax or when it motivates us it can actually be beneficial. Stress is natural, but distress is not natural.
In excess, stress can cause heart attacks and other serious illnesses. At it’s worse it can even lead to death.
Aromatherapy has also been found to be very beneficial and I would definitely recommend it. One of the best relaxing essences is lavender which is known for it’s relaxation properties.
Other things I have found beneficial to me have been to occupy my mind in writing or drawing. Things like this can take your mind of your problems and onto something else.
Sometimes we will need a little extra help. When stress turns to depression we will be looking at going to the doctor’s and for them to prescribe an anti depressant. I am on one of these called Venlafaxine. Also a herbal remedy that is good for depression is called St John’s Wart.
I hope that this opinion has proved useful and that you won’t suffer stress.
Remember music is a good way to relax whilst engaging your mind on something else.
Before going to bed at night, read take a warm drink and maybe a nice warm bath. You will find that sleep comes more easily.
Stress is horrible and there are people who you can talk to, people who can help. Just try to take it easy and remember to talk about your problems and not bottle them in, inside.
Anger I have found is a good stress relief, but when I say anger I mean channeling it in the right way. You will find most Psychiatrists and Psychologists agree that it’s the natural way to release emotions and avoid arguments.
Sometimes a punch bag may help to get past anger out. Anger that has been hidden inside.
Also if someone upsets you then you should tell them in a way that lets you release anger, but only if it is fair. In this, I mean do not start fights or go round hitting someone. Simply telling someone that they have upset you should be enough to get that anger out. You should not feel guilty about releasing anger or having a good cry it is all natural, but I hope you understand when I say there is natural anger and unatural anger.
When anger is unatural it goes beyond normal anger in the sense that it is released by harming another or harming yourself as I used to do. This is not natural.
There is enough anger in the world and if we all channeled that anger in the right way then that would help to reduce stress too and maybe help prevent wars or people being killed.
I advise you to read some books on anger management and stress relief.
I hope this helps.
Love and God Bless,
Mickie J