**an·ger n.**
*A strong feeling of displeasure or hostility.*
**Synonyms:** anger, rage, fury, ire, wrath, resentment, indignation
These nouns denote varying degrees of marked displeasure. Anger, the most general, is strong displeasure: Rage and fury imply intense, explosive, often destructive emotion:
*In short . Anger is almost always destructive! It’s a state of’Temporary insanity’*
**Why does one get angry? **
A feeling of:
***1st: Being wronged:***
Could be in both personal and professional life. This feeling increases in intensity if one has little or no scope to give vent to one’s anger. A feeling of helplessness creeps in.
***2nd: Deprivation / Cheated:***
Not getting what is due . Especially when one has worked hard for that! Worse if one is cheated! Almost a sure case scenario to induce anger.
***3rd: Frustration:***
Reasons could be many & the spectrum very wide. Ranging from being unsuccessful in:
? Education
? Professional life.
? Love & married life
***4th: Ridiculed:***
Even the coolest of em all will have a limit to tolerate’ Ridicule’!
Think about it! Ridicule, lowers one’s self esteem to a point where one loses self-control and sometimes leading to uncontrollable anger.
***5th: For no reason at all(This is the most worrying one!):***
How often we have seen people or experienced it ourselves! Anger for no rhyme or reason! This one is the worst & it can transform one’s personality from’ Congenial’ to’Hostile’ without any apparent reason leading to misunderstandings, quarrels, animosity & sometimes’Broken Hearts’I suspect this stems from .
a. Desire to attract attention
b. Project an’ Angry young man’image( Big B?) which is considered very macho.
*I have few very simple tips to control anger . It works for an imbecile like me & I don?t see any reason why it shouldn’t for anyone else!*
**1. Proper Sleep & rest: **
Reduces anxiety & stress . More often than not, when we’Sleep over it’ we get up with a more positive frame of mind & if not totally eliminated we have a better grip on our anger. A fresh mind sees’reason’ &’logic’!
**2. Soothing music: **
*’If music be the food of love play on’*. Nothing is more healing for jarred nerves than soothing music! It always calms me down. It makes me look at things with saner perspectives.
**3. Prayers / meditation:**
There are times when I am very angry I take refuge in God. I believe this helps me in not doing things or indulge in acts for which I might regret later. Meditation is a sure panacea for any state of anger.
*There are few other things which reduces / helps me control my anger .*
? Being amongst kids
? Walking in a garden with lots of flowers
? Playing with pets .
? Going for a quite walk by the river or sea side .
? Grandma’s recipe: counting backwards from 100( it actually works!)
**However there are times when you ought to get angry!Your anger instills a sense of pride in you & then drives you to higher heights of endeavour.**
But all said and done, my advice to all .
*Don’t worry be happy *
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’Don’t let your bed of sorrow
Ever conquer your pride
Remember there’s always a way out
Just take up a course in happiness
Take up a course to clear out your mind
You will show your self how to smile
Take up a course in happiness
Take up a free instruction in life
You will learn how to smile’
*Stevie Wonder *