* This review has been written with no intention, whatsoever, to question the author’s sincerity/integrity but just to give a different prespective.
We read the book , were impressed ’To the hilt’ , wow!! this is going change the way we are, we’d be successful & happy .We all know that the author was right in what he said & our lives would undergo a complete transformation if we follow the words in spirit , alright, how many of us are actually following the book in their day to day life ( I ain’t for one) .I don’t think there are many and if we have not followed it yet after reading the book two years back we arn’t going to practise it ever .Dale carnegie ( The author of - How to make friends and influence people- considered the BIble in this genre), Deepak Chopra , Arindham Choudhary , Shiv Khera and innumerable other authors together might have touched the sale of, ok, let’s us keep it the least , say, 30 Lakhs copies ( I think there is definitely wrong with the world where there are over 50 Lakhs people in the need of motivation to get going ), let us hazard a guess , in those 30 lakhs how many do you think would have practised the book in spirit? Please hazard a guess or you won’t accept the truth .Have you ever meet one such ’perfect’ man as depicted in those books ? ( I have not not as of yet) , do you seriously think that you are going to see one in future ?Think over it .
So what are we going to do ? Are we incurable souls destined to wear the I’m-like-that-only look forever ? The answer is a big NO.But first of all we will have to be earnest to ourselves , yes to ourselves . After all isn’t it true that we keep lying to ourselves about ourselves and after a while start believing in them ?Why do we think that we can become ’perfect’ all this while shying away from our weaknesses & trying to shrug it off !!We all are human arn’t we ?How can we try to play GOD ?What we ’can’ do is to accept that we do have some weaknesses , that we are wrong sometimes and that we are going to try & rectify it . May be after sometime we can change ourselves a wee bit more . But perfection and the man that the book dares you to become are found only in reel life and of course in book . In real life ? think again .
All of us , and , it is for sure, practised/are still practising , say A , B or C strategy presented in the book .Think over it , why is it that all of us are not following A, why is it that we have different ’favourites’?Simple, it’s so easy for us to follow what we could relate to , what we strongly feel about . You relate to A , I relate to B and both of us are following it. No one can relate to all (A-Z).
One fine morning when your neighbour walks to you and tries to explain ou the finer points od human behavior and the ’mantras’ of success are you going to seriously listen to his ’blabber’ ( I won’t).We all know it’s so easy to believe what is believed by others .This book is good / This peice of music is touching/This movie is simply superb , it saves us a lot of time and confliction of opinion . We as human being always try to save ourselves to save from undue conflicts that may work against us or hurt our Ego. Now , my neighbour said the same thing , I didn’t listen to him ( who the hell is he to tell me , he has no Locus Standi to do so) and then one popular guy said the same thing , i’ll be all ears because he is a well-known face , the author of the best-seller . We all so readily listen & believe in what the famous say ( This is not to say that they are wrong in whatever they say)but why is it that we don’t listen to the not-so-famous & most importantly to OURSELVES ?
Why do we need others to tell us that ’YOU CAN WIN’ ?We can be our best motivators. Whatever has been said in the book is already known to us , nothing new in it .We after all are in the best position to judge our capabilities/strength/weakness . We all possess some qualities , like these authors, they are master wordsmiths , they can compel you to think , it’s their profession to preach others PLEASE NOTE- It’s not their profession to follow what they themselves preach .Let us stop relying on others to tell us what we ought to do , what we ought to be because we already know what is right , may be we ignore it but we ’do’ know . Once we are determined to get rid of something nothing can stop us and when you are not determined you won’t do anything anyway come what may. We all know Cigrattee smoking is injurious to health but we still keep smoking . Your friends ask you to abhor it your parents ask you to leave it but you won’t and one fine day you will wake up and decide , ok mate i’m giving up this thing .So there you are determination is the key .And that is going to come from within (Unless their is this genuine desire it will be like ’Read it, Shut it , Forget it).
And say to yourself ’I CAN WIN’. definitely you can , why not ?