Well India! What we say about it there are thousands of words coming into mind as soon as I hear the word INDIA. A beautiful, Diverse, Affordable, Cultural, Free, A nation with wonders of spices, best food, Cities of dreams yes A nation widely known for its Democracy which is for the people by the people. This is what comes to our mind when hear about our nation INCREDIBLE INDIA. BUT. are we really incredible today? Are we maintaining the image we had the important properties it was known for. Are we Actually Democratic? Are we actually enjoying the unity in diversity moment.
No! I don't think so.
I really really really love my country a lot but this country is losing its ethnicity. I have no hate towards this country as some people might take it in other direction but let's be true to ourselves and face the reality.
Starting with Freedom. We are starting the freedom here and outside its ending every minute. No one is free. Some are trapped with the "log kya kahengy" some are trapped with "log ne ye kaha " some are trapped with "This is not how we are brought up".We are not free from the moment we open our eyes. We decide what to eat what to wear what to feel on the basis of "what other will say" . I don't understand why we care about other when none has any contribution to our lives. We have limited ourselves and suppressed our happiness, what we want to do in our life because of LOG also known as our brothers, sister, uncles, aunties, Neighbours etc.
I was just randomly asking few fellow mates in my class about what is their dream job and the answer left me with no surprise because I am in the same boat as well. We all are. Directly Indirectly. The answers were . someone said I wanted to become an artist but that is NOT A RELEVANT JOB you know to live a stable life .My parents say what we will answer to our relatives about your designation.! wow! another one said "I have been hearing that I have to become an engineer in future so I never thought about what I want to peruse further I never thought about my interests as it was already planned by my elders." incredible! . another one said "Interests are just for free time real occupation is always doctors, engineers, lawyers. Rest all are better left as hobbies. The reputed occupation in INDIA is this other than if you are anything than you are NOTHING this is what my parents and elders say" I was damned by this answer not that I was any different yet. Our dreams are left incomplete and crumbled with no second thought because thats how it has been and thats how it will be!?
We and soooo many people in this world are just living on the basis what people have set the standard occupations, standard clothes, standard MARRAIGES. We are just student who have not even entered the world correctly, but the world has already entered into us some or the other way and they are dictating our lives, OUR LIVES!
Marriages in India! Literal life destroying process in the name of successful marriage.
In India one can give up on life that's not loss or shameful but giving up in a toxic marriage is sin destroys the Name of the family which people have invented I still don't know what it is, where it is, how it looks. This imaginary word has destroyed millions of lives and I bet and I and everyone here will be having or the other story because of this imaginary "name". The law here doesn't work above the Indian culture and heritage. According to heritage, a successful marriage is where both men and women live in that relationship doesn't matter if he/she has been cheated on, doesn't matter he/ she has been physically and mentally abusing and harassing each other, doesn't matter if he/she has no will to be in this commitment, doesn't matter if he/she has come to that extent where dying feels easier than being in a marriage. but nothing above the INDIAN CULTURE. What has been practiced here is male is the king (no hate towards male but that's how I have been seeing since childhood SOME men).He or she also at times can abuse and manipulate physically but its normal he is your husband um I have never heard it's okay she is wife and I never wish to either because physical, mental, emotional abuse has no relation to gender it's from a human to other and no marriage or any commitment can justify the reason of one person hitting another and normalizing it. I have seen people cheating openly and coming to all husband/wife rights and behaving like a proud human wanting all "respect" from other significant because that's what other person is supposed to do in marriage.
I think you deserve love and respect when you do prove you are worthy of it. A commitment doesn't make you any eligible for any of it. Above this comes our audience without invitation involving in everyone personal life throwing their unasked opinion. Even if one tries to take decision and tries to make a rest of life worth living . they make their guest appearance. Try to convince to change the decisions and normalize this immorality because simply they have been through it too and many other are living the same. They force us to live a life they have lived. They tell us its fine everyone lives like that. It's okay everyone has been there, but no one leaves like you are trying to. yes Aunty! because other people have given up you are asking us to give up too.
Just let us be us. The way we are giving access of our lives to others is utter stupidity and it's time to change. One must live a life their wat anyways it their life! No heritage or so-called culture is important than an individual's life and happiness. We need to start changing the priorities from "Continuing the history" to "Prioritizing happiness".
Live and let Live!:)