First of all I have been quite busy and am just now catching up reading reviews and saw this category which must be new or I have missed it all this time and quite honestly I was surprised to see it.
Then the debate on whether to write about it and if so what on earth to title it but as you can see I have decided to take the plunge.
A very common problem is lack of communication. First you need to know your partner and have a conversation about this subject. A very in depth conversation about what each party expects, does not expect, what they like and do not like.
For example while in the heat of passion you do not want to do something that turns your partner off so you must know these things.
You have to communicate openly about it. Do not try and pretend you like something if you don’t then expect to have a great sex life.
For example if someone touches my feet I am instantly turned off and ready to kick them as I am quite ticklish on my feet so the first thing out of my mouth usually is if you touch my feet I will kick you out of bed. I am quite blunt with these things.
I used to be very shy with such topics and never had a good relationship and I admit the first conversation is the hardest to have even if you have known someone a long time but I feel it is the most important of all to having a good relationship. If there is a problem it can be worked out unless you are total opposites and if you are then it is not going to work no matter what.
For example there are some people who are into pain and I am not one of them so there is no way that could ever work. Lesser things you can deal with and perhaps compromise.
Handle the problem the same as any other and get everything out in the open.
And for heavens sakes don’t pretend anything just to boost someones ego as that too in time will fail and in the mean time there will be no satisfaction for you.