The word web gives its definition for personality
- The complex of all the attributes- behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental – that characterize a unique individual.
It is indeed very true. The success that you face at each step of your life will always go hand in had with your personality traits. Your attitude plays a vital part in your personal grooming. I am no great person to give tips that will assure you success in life. I will just suggest you things, which I personally feel has made me a better person. I still have a long way to groom my self-but on due course of time, have learnt a few things I would like to share with you people.
· Attitude is the first and foremost thing that they preach wherever you go be it your schooling, college or career. A positive attitude always pays off well. Attitude is considered as the window through which you look at the world, if it’s dirty blurred or confused the world will look the same to you. If you have a clear and positive attitude then the world will be a better place to live on.
· Self-confidence and self-belief are two important traits one has to possess. Believe in yourself. Know your strengths and weakness. Assess them properly. Be practical in accepting your weakness. Approach with full confidence in whatever you decide to accomplish. Bu remember there is only a very thin line of difference between being confident and getting over confident. Beware of it.
· Failure is the stepping-stone of success. So don’t be worried of failure. You need to be optimistic and take the failures in your strides. Learn form each of your failure and understand your mistakes. Committing a mistake is no crime but repeating it time and again is suicidal. So make sure you don’t repeat them time and again.
· Never hesitate to experiment and ask questions. Only by asking questions you will learn more. Be inquisitive to know about anything and everything happening around you. Never think what the others will think. Experiment on various things, you may never know you are good at something unless you try it. Great inventors succeeded only because of experimenting on a countless number of times.
· Keep your ears open. Listen to what others say, only then you will have another viewpoint of a topic. Never approach any issue in a predetermined path. Take suggestions from worthy knowledgeable people. Be patient and analyze their point of view. But don’t be influenced by others, listen to them and take your judgment on your own taking everyones view in to account. Don’t go by others decision. You are the only person to know what is best for you.
· *Never get influenced by others. *Don’t ever try to imitate others. Follow your own instincts and interests. Don’t start off something because your friend is doing that and end up making a mockery out of yourself. You and your friend may have totally different thoughts and perception towards life. So follow your instincts.
· Have an aim in life, a set of goals to achieve.* A life without an aim is as useless as a gun without bullets.* You aren’t doing any justice to yourself if you just live for the heck of it. Goals and aims need not be huge and very futuristic. Rather it may be better of to set small goals to achieve with a very present target of time. As you slowly and surely start reaching the goals, it will automatically lead you to your destiny.
· *Be cheerful. *Always have a smile on your face. A good sense of humor will keep yourself and the people around you in a very good frame of mind. It will relieve you of your stress and tension. A cheerful person will be more efficient and relaxed in handling an issue rather than a serious person. So keep smiling and be happy.
· *Be presentable. *Though your appearance is not everything in life it is definitely something. Need not have to wear expensive branded stuff, but dress neatly with pleasant colors that soothes the eyes of the viewer. Wear stuffs that suits, don’t be influenced by others. Your dress is explanatory of your personality. Appear clean and fresh.
· Be approachable. Be polite with others. Don’t give others the impression that you are rude. Talk to others with a pleasant smile. Help them if you can. Interacting with others will make you a better person. It will help improving you communication skills.
· A very important thing is the *ability to convey things to others and making them understand what you exactly mean. *This is a very important ability. Unless the opposite person understands what you say, they will never respond the way you want them to. So be clear in your thoughts and clear I your words. Communicate well with others.
· Never expose your weakness to everyone. There will be your friends and well wishers who help you out, but at the same time there will be a few who would exploit them. So never disclose it to the public. Sort out a way to overcome it. Nothing is impossible, so be confident and you will definitely succeed.
· *Always stand by your decision. *Never try to give up if you have started something. Pointless of whether you are winning or losing, fight till the very end. Have a never say die attitude. If you lose don’t me ashamed, be proud of your brave attempt.
So, it’s all in our mind and in our thoughts. We will be what are thoughts are. As a famous quoting goes:
’Watch your thoughts; they become your words. Watch your words; they become your actions. Watch your actions; they become your habits. Watch your habits; they become your character. Watch your character for it will become your destiny.’